My Husband Wasn't Honest now Blames Me!

Ok so I am an attractive older woman. Lets just say under 50 and leave it at that. I'm recently divorced and living on my own for the first time in 24 years. I got married when I was 21 and we never had any children. Both my husband and I were more interested in our careers and didn't want to stop from achieving our goals. We just realized that we were going in different directions. My husband later told me that he wanted children and blamed me for not wanting any. So the SOB started a relationship with a young woman working for his company. She is 25 and they are planning a family. That's fine but it was as much his idea as mine to not have a family. He could have spoken up at anytime during our marriage and said that he changed his mine and desired to start a family. I would have agreed and given him children but he said nothing. When asked why he didn't bring this up at anytime he just shrugged his shoulders and said he wasn't sure why. Now this is not my fault he couldn't communicate this to me. He could tell me when he was taking off to play golf or when he was thinking of buying a new sports car. But he couldn't say hey what you think about having kids.

So now I find myself out dating again and I find just about all men dating in the age range I chosen have children. The range I chose is 40-55 . The majority of them have ex wives and children. Ok I can deal with that. Would be kind of a new thing for me. I could try being like a step mother of sorts. I forgot to mention that both my husband and I were only children so we don't have siblings with children. Yes we had some married friends that do have children but that wasn't our world. I can remember attending a child's birthday party. After being around all the little rug rats. Seeing them running around screaming and spilling cake, ice cream, and soda. We went home and had a good laugh saying we were totally happy just being the two of us.

We enjoyed spending time alone with one another. If we weren't working that is what we did. Traveled all over the world together. We did take time for one another. It just goes to show you that sometimes your mate my not always be truthful about how they feel. Anyway I'm dating again and find it so new to have the issue of a man with children. I really feel like a fish out of water though. I am finding this to be ok. I don't mind children I'm not like some old wicked witch who hates them and wants to bake them into a pie or something. Ok so my rant is over now and that's all just wanted to get it off my chest.

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