Americas Coldest Labels

Life is hard just by itself .. I really don't agree or understand about the labels that are used to categorize & shun people. How come people who truly want to be themselves have to hide it from a family member, friend or spouse? Its because the labels and drama that comes with it.
I have a cousin thats homo/gay he's a good guy however in the event of being mad with him i'm not gonna call him "fagot" "fruitcake" etc .. because these are cold labels. Its bad enough one must live with enough prejudices & negative attention already. I mean he never had to hide his true self from family or friends because he has that love me or leave me attitude. In a nutshell whats it all about? someone lives a different lifestyle than me and theres nothing wrong with it. Live it up and live on ..
Marital life can be hard by itself. A lot of us were young and wasn't sure if marriage was a good idea and did it anyway. Some truly have the storybook life of finding that perfect person but sex, love, kindness may have faded out through the years. Whatever the case maybe whether its coping with drama, turmoil, faded out feelings, bad sex just isn't easy to deal with. To a point where it's driven people into depressions and suicides. Why? because moving on, getting out and change of life costs a pretty penny.
Some are good with moving back in with their parents or having roomates and some just aren't .. Simple! Those that aren't may not have anybody to fall back on for whatever reason. This is why if someone is having these kinds of issues and their social side just happens to update and attracts another person they jump at the chance to regain happiness, feel alive again, feel good again, feel wanted etc .. yet there gonna need to hide this from their significant other. Why? because nobody wants to be labeled "cheater" "adulterer" "whore". These are cold labels .. However divorce is always an option but going through that legal process can be costly, emotionally and mentally draining and it traumatizes kids as some kids can deal with it and some can't .. Then family court always strings up the person who's requesting change so its going to cost them alimony, child support, and half the income. On top of that they still will have to afford for their own place including utilities, car note, food etc .. Bottom line divorce costs .. some can afford all that & some can't ..
When the social circle updates as one is marital and they just happen to meet somebody or know somebody that their attracted to, then situations turn into a new relationship its kept on the downlow because "coming clean" is overrated, sure its about telling the truth but c'mon is telling on yourself really worth all the drama that can come with it? Again some can deal with it and some can't .. So they would rather pull their happiness out behind closed doors because if one really reveals to their spouse about their alternate route to happiness then their automatically labeled "cheater" "weak" "whore" etc .. and are destined for divorce and financial ruin .. These are cold labels and what's it all about .. The current relationship or marriage one is in isn't what it's cracked up to be, like one thought it would be and to move on would cost big time.
So to me theres nothing wrong with alternate routes to happiness. Live it up and live on .. I just refuse to label and judge those who decide to live alternate ways and I understand that society and religion has this perfect way they want you to live in order to avoid the negative labels however society and religion fail to realize that were not "cheaters", "faggots", "adulterers", "whores" were simply human ..

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