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Ask but then never allow any conversation
Last year my wife and I discussed regrets on what we had not tried before we met many years ago. She regretted not having sex with another woman and asked if I have ever considered trying with a man. I said yes but my biggest regret is never being with a trans girl (sex/relationship/exclusive porn since I was a teenager).
We talked about planning a naughty couples trip to Amsterdam where we would have a threesome with another woman (for her) and one with a trans girl (I gently suggested which she shrugged at in an ok sort of way. I don’t dare tell her the full truth).
During sex we talked about it as a fantasy scenario and I thought we would plan a trip for in a years time like we suggested.
A few days after all this I get hit with planning a trip with some friends to Amsterdam to watch a gig which then changed to a holiday with a mate elsewhere (no need for details but I know there’s no attraction there for either of them).
Any other time I tried to bring it up gently or during sex it’s immediately shut down one way or another.
I feel like crap about it as I was really hoping this would bring something exciting into our sex life and a chance for us to experience something new together.
If she ever mentions anything like it again I’m just going to dismiss her by saying ‘it’s never going to happen, something will crop up to put you off’ but to be honest I don’t think she will.
Women reveal these things as fantasies. Few ever want to actually experience it. I’ve wanted to share mine for years. We have a great RP about it during sex. Then she develops amnesia as soon as we’re done. Everything I’ve read says you can’t push her. Either it happens or it doesn’t. I’m sure ours won’t. I’d say you pushed and she retreated.
Same here, I think that's really what they want to do, but don't want you to know. I don't care how loving and understanding you are to your wife.