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Is Having an Affair or Cheating Ever Justified?
For complete transparency I have cheated and had an affair.
Is there ever a defendable reason for having an affair whether it be sexual or emotional or just cheating whether it be a sexting, one night stand or longer.
For clarity I define an affair as a relationship and a relationship that could lead to breaking up or divorcing your SO. I define cheating as essentially a sexual interaction between two consenting people for the benefit of fun / adventure.
These may not be your definitions or understanding but I wanted to provide explanations for what I believe the difference is between the two.
Thank you and I look forward to you responses.
Good luck with you ideas about affairs. All i know is that people usually get hurt when they happen.
Cheating is always wrong and can potentially cause irreparable damage to a relationship, but I'd make a distinction between being emotionally attached and what you call "fun/adventure."
The 4 times I cheated on my husband in 17 years were "fun." And I haven't cheated in 7 years. It was usually with friends with my husband not around, drinking wine, and we decided to play because it felt good. My husband still doesn't have a clue that I've ever cheated. I love him dearly, but sex is better sometimes with someone new or because the vibe is right. In no way was I ever emotionally attached.
Was it bad behavior? Sure. But I don't think my husband would turn down willing pussy. Who knows, maybe he has cheated on me too, but I don't know about it and we love each other to death.
They are different yes, but both vile acts in their own rights. If you are betraying your partners trust then it’s wrong. If your partner doesn’t deserve such respect then it may fulfill the definitions but isn’t immoral.
I've been cheating on my wife off and on for 12 years. It's just sex. I don't consider that to be infidelity. I've fucked a few female coworkers. Multiple times. Sometimes a guy just needs some different pussy. Or a woman that actually lists after the guy. I've sucked dick and I've had guys suck my dick. Guys love giving head and wife never wants to.
You sound like a lousy husband. Sometimes a woman might need a different dick, but that doesn't make you feel good when she acts on that urge. Change things up in your marriage, but cheating for a different pussy is just stupid and hurtful.
I've read where women are as much, if not more, angered by emotional betrayal than sexual, men, the exact opposite. Sounds like you might get a chance to pose that question to a judge. Good luck with that.