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Why your husbands cheat
Dear Ladies,
I am the other woman. I have sex with your husbands. Let's be clear, not all husbands cheat, but even some you would think would NEVER cheat do. This is a shitty reality, but a reality all the same.
Some are looking to change partners/replace you, but honestly most want to stay with you and the kids. Some are really only staying for the kids.
Why are they cheating on you? There are so many variables, but the main reasons as I see them are as follows:
1. Not enough sex, not enough touch (physical intimacy even without sex), not kinky enough sex, lack of oral sex, and being made to feel bad if they ask for sex. They need more hugs and kisses too!!
2. Breakdown in communication. They do actually want you to talk to them. Tell them stuff going on. Ask them about their day.
3. As women we require validation sometimes to remind us we're desirable and loved. Guess what! Your men do too!!! This one married guy I am with he told me how sexy I am one evening. I told him he's sexy as well. I really meant it. He really turned me on. We were a bit tipsy, and he got the saddest look on his face. I asked him what was wrong, and he told me that it had been a very long time since anyone had said that and made him feel sexy. Men need validation too.
4. Blow them. Blow them a lot. It's not that tough. It can be done almost anywhere you can find privacy. If his dick is in your mouth it's not in mine.
5. Don't worry about being skinny or having perfect tits. If he's with you he's fine with you as you are. He's probably not perfect either!!! But, do try to keep up a little. Dress nice. Wear a little make-up. Do your hair. A little effort goes a long way. ;)
Good luck my sweets.
The Other Woman
Good post, and all true. However, I'm the Other Guy. I'm the guy that meets your wife at the gym, tells her how great she looks, and then fucks her in the parking lot. I'm the guy that runs into your wife at the supermarket, compliments her on her outfit and hair, then takes her back to my apartment and fucks her hard and long in ways you haven't experienced for years. I'm the guy that is introduced to your wife at the PTA meeting, the single, good looking dad that dots on his daughters, the one all the women look at and imagine giving their asses to; and I'm the guy that meets your wife at your house to work on that PTA project and ends up getting a blowjob from her in your kitchen. I'm the guy who, even in his mid-40s, watches what he eats, works out 5x/week and takes care of himself so he looks good, smells good, and is always ready to go when your wife is. Guys, it's not rocket science - take care of yourself, treat your wife like every day is your second date, and make sure she knows how much you love, respect, and appreciate her. Do those things and I guarantee you I wont have a chance of getting into her panties and I promise you will get all the love, sex, and attention you can handle.
You are just great a fantastic post, I do think though that a lot of it comes back to nice anal sex , if men get that it sort of makes them feel in control, my wife and I have been doing it for years first we used butt plugs and dildos with plenty of lube to elastisize her bum hole took a while but when she was comfortable I mounted and humped we have never looked back, the last time we did vaginal would be two years ago occassionaly I get oral or we mutually masturbate and we certainly are not looking for other partners
I can speak from a male point of view ... its the fact that if were told not to do something were just going to do it anyway or we'll want to do it more. Then some are seduced and teased as they choose to live for that moment i mean, its hard for us to turn down a good time especially if it involves a sexy woman talking about sex. Temptation is hard to fight off especially if you haven't done anything different in a long time as far as sex partners go. Guaranteeing to be a fairhful person forever just isn't realistic for some because humans are so flawed and marriage gives guys the pressure of being this perfect husband that promises to be the guy that can fight off temptation, seduction and other women for the rest of his life and again thats just not realistic for some.
I have to say..This is fantastic. And largely true. My ex-wife was guilty of pretty much all of these. Definitely 1, 2, and 3, Forget 4..That never happened and I gave up trying. As for 5..Maybe she'd do herself for work, but other than that? I got the lazy, jeans, sweatshirt, no makeup, frumpy look..Wasn't very conducive to wanting her.
And, yes..I did go elsewhere on her several times. No shame admitting that. Nurse friend of mine, who was just..steamy-hot, sweet to me and so into me I didn't know how to respond sometimes, and I got together fairly often, as did a business group friend. She and I still have a FWB thing going on, and, are just good together, sexually. We have a chemistry that's undeniable. I was with her a few times when I was married as well.
If women would only pay attention, not get lazy and complacent..Men wouldn't run elsewhere. We're people, too, and want to be appreciated for what we do.
Some men just get a thrill out of cheating. It's the excitement of getting away with something taboo and the danger of getting caught that they seek, as much as it is the sexual aspect of it.
If wives would just let hubby have more sex then they won't cheat as much. If you wear him out at home he will be too tired to go out and cheat.
I was about to share a story of cheating and you nailed the reasons perfect. Great insight.
Yes, ladies....fuck your husbands!!!!
Haha! I'm the other woman for a few men, but I'm also married.