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3 months ago a friend of a friend girlfriend split up from her boyfriend, I bumped into her shopping, she said everyone is on her case talking about the break up, she said she wished she had someone to go to escape.
I said you’re welcome to use my flat if you’re just wanting to get off grid.
She has been coming and going as she pleases, I’m enjoying the company she’s enjoying the silence.
We have formed a connection, basically all the ingredients to start a relationship / have sex but both of us know because of many reasons both can never happen.
She happy to spread her legs on the sofa and bring herself to orgasm while I watch, if I get my dick out or try anything she tells me to just watch.
I’m confused, any feedback would be appreciated.
"both of us know because of many reasons both can never happen"
So things can never get seriously physical with this person. Then I think your definition of serious or casual is a little different from hers.
Look, people categorize things in their head into boxes. Some put sex and love in separate boxes, while for others, they're inseparable. For some, sex doesn't go in the "serious" box, but kissing is way too intimate and not something they'd do casually, which confuses people who throw them all into one box.
Your friend has sexual needs that are satisfied with exhibition alone. Masturbating in front of a guy doesn't go into a "serious" box with sex and relationships (which you say isn't a box either of you should approach), so it's just "casual" fun for her and she thinks you're getting something out of it too. When you whip your dick out, that's not casual to her anymore (who knows why, maybe she only feels relaxed when she's 100% in control of the scene, maybe she's afraid you'll keep asking for more and more, etc).
If you feel playing with yourself is not serious and won't make you escalate things, just talk with her, say it feels a little unfair she gets all the pleasure (literally) and you promise not to escalate things or cross any boundaries, but it's annoying so please just think about it.
Maybe she'll be fine with it and you just needed to have that talk not in the heat-of-the-moment. Or maybe she'll still say no, she doesn't like that, just watch. In which case, decide if you enjoy the masturbation show (sounds more fun than what you see in a strip club imho) ... or say sorry, it's just not as fun with no touching, so it's been fun but let's drop the show.
Though if you're hoping to just have sex / relationship, I don't know why you bothered to open with saying it can "never happen" and you're just teasing yourself. In which case, drop the strip shows before you make it serious.
And for gods sake, ignore any comments saying to just assault her.
Just fuck her