Just had my first gay date

Update: thank you all for your kind words, we're still talking, we've been hanging out more but I'm still in the closet, we've gotten a little physical but haven't went all the way yet. He really wants to hook up but I'm just too nervous because I think I'm a bottom but I don't know if it's going to hurt or not. He says it's be fine but I've seen his unit and it's pretty big, can't imagine it inside me. But I do get butterflies when we kiss and cuddle. He wants me to be the "bottom" and I honestly that's what I would prefer but it's just so foreign to me. I don't want to force it but I do want to be a little more feminine for him. Idk where to start. Then there's the coming out part, I can't ever see myself doing that. Ugh idk. Help lol.

By all means stay in touch with him. Tell him what you would like to do. Once you get past that first awkward period you will be more comfortable.

I'm totally comfortable when we're at my apartment I wear short shorts and loosen up a little, sit in his lap etc, but I'm too afraid to go out like that.

Be candid with him about your uncertainty but also your curiosity. He’ll probably be attracted to that. I would be. Enjoy the journey. Don’t worry about labels or being “out”.

Just enjoy being yourself and don't worry about coming out. Have fun and do what you normally would to be happy. Don't go overboard and don't be scared, just be yourself

Just let him lead. You’ll figure out what role best suits you through experience.

You don't need to come out yet. Do what you enjoy, learn what you like, and explore your options