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I tried bottom for my first time
I just recently discovered I'm bi, I've been hooking up but only as a top. Last weekend I decided to try bottom and right now I am regretting it. At the time it didn't really hurt it was more of just a full sensation and I actually really enjoyed it, it was great until the next morning, I was so sore! It's been 3 days and my butt is still sore, feels like he's still inside me. This sounds gross but when I fart I feel like I'm loose. I hope I don't become loose permanently. He's wanting to hook up again this weekend and I'm honestly not sure I'll be able to. I told him what's going on and he said it's normal and it'll be even better once I loosen up a little but that kind of worries me. Am I over thinking this?
Enema beforehand lots of lube.
So glad everything worked out and that you're enjoying it now. Welcome to the club!
For the sake of anyone else reading this, anal sex does NOT have to include any pain at all, and in fact if done right it shouldn't feel anything but amazing. The 3 keys are practice, patience, and lube.
Start with a small toy (put it in a condom to save cleanup hassle). Use it on yourself so you have full control as you get used to it. Switch to larger ones as you learn to relax if you like, but you don't necessarily need to work up to a giant traffic cone-sized dildo unless you're planning on hooking up with a freakishly large partner. My first time getting fucked by a guy he was average sized, and I'd only used a small toy on myself beforehand, and there were no problems at all.
Patience is critical, especially on first insertion and especially the first time. I was very lucky with my first time, because it was with a friend I'd known since high school and who I trusted. He was pretty well experienced and really wanted to make it special, and so he was perfectly happy letting me set the pace and slowly working his cock into me. If it started to hurt a bit we'd pause, he'd pull back a little, we'd add more lube as my hole relaxed, and then we'd continue. By the time he was all the way in I was ready to go, and he fucked the hell out of me and every moment of it was fantastic.
Lube is obvious, but still underrated. My general rule is "when you think you have enough lube, you're halfway there." Lube both yourself and your partner/toy. Then lube yourself some more.
I was nervous as hell the first time I got fucked, but was blown away by the experience. I wasn't at all prepared for that kind of pleasure, and suddenly understood why some guys take big risks. I still prefer sex with women in general, but they're such different experiences it's hard to compare.
I'm back to normal now, we've actually had sex 2 times since and it's totally different now. I'm actually REALLY enjoying it! Thank all of you for your support.
I purchased a small dildo (realistic) to prepare myself for an eventual partner. When I finally started meeting potential partners it turned out to be a good move. I really get off on hearing them enjoy themselves slapping against me with their hands on my hips !
Of course it will hurt the first time but trust me it gets a lot better over time. And you're ass will loosen up after a while once you learn how to relax yourself and enjoy being fucked. I find buttplugs very useful before sex they help open up my hole before getting fucked. The guy I am seeing now is 9 inches long and after he has fucked me I am back to normal in a day or so.
Sounds like you used a hard dildo and not a real cock. As big and as hard as a dick is you always recover after a few days. You get phantom dick when you fuck a bigger cock but that's only from your organs rearranging themselves back to normal
How fucking big was he? Your ass may be sore but it goes back to normal almost instantly exceot for a little pain. I've taken some pretty big guys and it takes about 4 to 7 days to feel normal, but nothing this dramatic! Ya might wanna see a doctor if he ripped you open! Did you bleed? Did yiu not use enough lubricant? Word of advice, lube, lube and more lube. Pre cum isn't enough lube to dilate you right. You may have ripped something. Go get checked out.
I'm back to normal now, ty