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How do you approach mature women?
I'm a guy in my late 20's. I've recently realized I'm very attracted to older women, late 30s onwards. They're the kind of women I find intellectually most stimulating, and sexually more attractive (when I watch porn, it's usually about younger guys with older women).
Thing is, I don't know the first thing about approaching a mature woman with dating or sex in mind. In my context it's mostly been friends of my parents, superiors at work, teachers and such. All my partners so far have been girls my age or younger. Only once did I try to talk to a woman in her 40s at a coffee shop, and she was kind of condescending. Kind of like a mother talking to a lost kid.
Anybody with this kind of experience, or any advice?
I'm 24 and I've tried this route and just want to say "beware." In the last couple of years I dated two divorced women for a period, one was 37 and the other was 42. The one who was 37 was great in the sack, but had been married twice, had kids 10 and 5, and I shortly learned why she was divorced twice: she was a headcase. Really bizarre flying off the wall type of mind and insecure too, because she had been dumped a few times in her life. The one who was 42 lasted a little longer, we dated for 9 months, but she too had kids aged 16 and 13 and though the sex was awesome I felt like I was behind her kids when it came to getting attention and shit. She just liked that I helped with the bills.
Most older, single women have significant issues or baggage, so be prepared for that. I'm not sure if a piece of pussy is worth it, no matter how good it feels. I'm back to dating people in my age range and couldn't be happier.
When I was about 24 I saw an older woman walking down the street. She was wearing a short mini-skirt and some sexy high heels and a wig. I decided to try and hit on her just to see what she was into. It turns out she was whoring. But she made it clear she didn't mess around with young guys. So she turned me away. But her big ass looked good as hell in that mini and it was gonna take more then a simple "no" to make me go away. So I hit on her again. I assured her I was older then I looked and that I would pay her whatever she wanted. So she agreed and we went to a motel. That's when I found out she was in her 60's and she loved to fuck. Well we had amazing sex. When that old pro got through with me I was trying to get her phone number. But she told me she had a pimp and she couldn't give it out. But that 60 year old pussy was amazing. If she didn't have a pimp I would've made her my woman.
Go to a casino and have a few drinks but make sure you are not driving.
Approach them with confidence and forthrightly ask them, " M'am, is it true that men are as old as they feel, but, women are as old as they look ? " Drives them WILD !
It should be the other way round.That excites them.
First, like others have said below, you better have your shit together. Good job, your own place, and future plans. The last thing a MILF wants is another child to take care off, so have your shit together and be confident first.
Next, it's harder to find single 40 year old women after they have spent 20 years in the game already. Most of them are already married, so you need to be open and look for women who are divorced. Start paying attention to the dissolution of marriages in the local paper. It's like the perfect list of available MILF.
And last, if you are looking for a relationship, you better be open to raising some other mans kids. The most important thing to remember is her children are her number one priority. You get the MILF by getting the kids. If her kids love you than she will be more attracted to you. So pay attention to her kids, but be careful to not pay too much attention because that's just creepy and she may think you're either not mature or after something else.
I hope you find a good MILF, they are the best. I have been married to my MILF who is 14 years older than me for 19 years now and I wouldn't change a thing. Good luck
Four words: have your shit together. If you have a good job, are making money, and are willing to spend it, you will attract a lot of MILFs on the rebound. They want security, and they will give up pussy for it.
They don't want another child (they likely have those) or someone they need to support. You have to bring a good "game" to them.
You pretty much treat us just like younger women but one thing to keep in mind is older women usually know the routine. We can spot a dog from a mile a way so if we are not into casual sex, younger guys or what ever we spot that turns us off your not going to get anywhere.
You just have not met the right older woman yet.