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Wife was raped
This weekend after my wife and I returned from an evening at the bar she was in the mood to keep enjoying the night and I was tired from working all day. We had a small argument about it and I told her I was going to bed.
She stayed up and heard the neighbors next door having a party and I heard her leave.
Next thing, she comes in several hours later saying that "he raped me". She had passed out on the neighbor's couch (her girlfriend and her guy roomates live in the house). While she was asleep one of the guys came in and picked her up taking her to her room. She was so drunk and out of it that she thought it was me having sex with her. When she started to make out his face and saw that it was someone else she freaked out and started kicking and hitting him to get off. He held her down and told her he was going to finish. She kept fighting and he pulled a knife on her. Told her that if she told anyone he would kill her.
When she told me I went nuts and went to the guy's house. I banged on the door screaming at him. He didn't come out.
My wife will not press charges, she feels like it would be too hard to prove and that she doesn't want to be known throughout the neighborhood as a drunken whore. She even spoke to a detective about it and he told her it would be a long difficult road to get him convicted. I am a very well known business person in the community so me going over there and fighting him or doing anything illegal would end in my life being ruined.
Our marriage is falling apart. We haven't had sex since, who knows if he gave her something. Who knows if she would have flashbacks while we are having sex.
She has fallen into a deep depression and our world is falling apart. The asshole lives right next door and there is nothing we can do about it. We are in our dream home but due to some financial stuff last year I would not be able to get a loan to move somewhere else.
The rage I have for the guy grows daily but I know that anything done to him will be traced right back to me. She is losing her job because she is too depressed to go into work, which leaves her at the house to go through a living hell of her own as the guy drives by.
I would have shot and killed him by now
This is horrible! Believe your wife! I hope you two can endure and overcome this. You two should check into counseling if you want to work it out.
I'm a female-42, married with two kids. The reason I say believe her is because as a female, I have had numerous work place affairs with my male co-workers and rape is something no woman would cry just because she got caught having an affair.
Even back in my wild college days, I never claimed rape while having sex with a guy while drunk or high. btw; I was never too far out of it to NOT know who I'm having sex with. Even when it wasn't good sex, I let the guy finish. Back in my college days, we were told you can stop HIM at anytime. Come on Really? You're already doing it. Any woman knows that when you're not having fun, you can arch your back and twist your hips and he's done within seconds.
Getting caught cheating is bad but rape at knife point takes things into another level. As you have figured out, when the police get involved everything get's messy and lives are impacted.
It's disturbing the detective took the 'lazy' approach because she was held down at knife point! It's also disturbing you value your reputation and career over your wife's well being. Rape in society is a big deal and actually that detective has an obligation to check into it even after you walked out of his office telling him not too. It's their job.
I wish you both well and I hope both of you can overcome this.
She should fuck him again
The wife needs therapy. She is not the first woman to be treated that way. In all reality, some women fantasize the very same scenario. How do people process the same thing in a different mindset? The processing of the information will set her free. That is the therapy part.
Next, the payback. The man owes restitution for his crime. Offer him that opportunity. Kind of like "an eye for an eye". The law, as already decided, will not be involved. Only two people know what happened. If it was rape, they both know it. If it was consensual, they both know it. I have many ways to even the score. Its about just two things. 1) getting her mind right. 2) If he is the culprit, he has to pay. Money is my go-to. Set the price. Some would be happy with having the man captured(easier than you may think) and having him sexually violated. Get him on film having to blow several guys while they lounge around in easy chairs and only let him go when they are all tired of cumming. I've used that one and it took 3 days with no sleep. Have him raped in ass and mouth, violently as you please.......until she is satisfied he has evened the score. Kill him? No. that is reserved for other crimes. I have already judged this crime not worthy of death......I will argue that with anyone.
My point is, he has to pay in some way, if ,in fact, the two of them are in agreement of what took place. If it were me, if it were my wife, and she had been non-consensually violated. He would pay. END OF STORY. No reason to spend tax-payer money on a trial anyway. This is a score to be settled between two people, maybe three, to a monetary or otherwise equivalent outcome that is justified between all parties with the greatest weight being determined by the satisfaction of the woman.
She gave willingly, the problem was she felt guilty and had the feeling that she needed to tell you but she also needed to made an excuse for her self, so she made up the rape story. To think that she did not want to press charges, if she felt violated she would still do it regardless how strong the case will be.
Kill the guy that did it to her. What the hell are you waiting for? Your career be damned; act like a fucking man.
You both need therapy. She is your wife and you love her dearly. Do the right thing and get counseling for both of you.
Your wife is a lying whore. I been through the same shit before with my roommate's girlfriend. She sucked my dick and fucked me for half the night then felt guilty the next day and told him I raped her. She fuck one of his other friends a couple weeks later and said the same shit about him raping her. Get ride of the whore...
Do you think it would benefit her if she joined a non-profit anti-rape organization? Helping others who have been raped might help give her a sense of purpose and passion. Also, these people have experienced something similar, and may be able to support her (as a fellow victim) in a way you can't.
She IS a drunken whore. I mean really.
And she fucked him willingly then halfway through decided not too- she's LYING to you dude about thinking it was you! And you're just naive and gullible and egotistical enough to believe her.
Sad for you.
Get used to her being "raped" a lot more often in the future.
Who the fuck do you think you are? You are a complete fucking asshole. Maybe you should have gotten raped instead of his wife.
you are such an asshole. How would you feel if it was your own daughter or wife who got raped?
I strongly disagree- of course don't "dump your wife". If anything, you really need to be there for her in this difficult time. She's depressed and she needs you to get through this. She needs you to be stronger and to offer her some strength.
I think justice is more important than reputation. People will talk because they always love to talk, but at the end of the day talk is entertainment for them and it won't affect their lives personally. This is your life and your wife's. She has been raped, and rape is a crime. It is also traumatizing and she probably needs to go into counseling. Do something. Take action.
your wife if fucked up! and so are you! don't ever let your wife get drunk without you around. you have to take responsibility on this shit too man. it's not his fault that he was given the temptation to do it as he might also be fucking drunk and there was a wide open ass waiting to be tap on the couch. she shouldn't have gone out without you, and she shouldn't known not to get drunk and not being able to handle it.
now you're in a lot of deep shit. take it all in, if you want to save your marriage or if you want out, now is a good time. you can chase the guy, torture him and get him to confess, or just hire someone to break both his legs as you have the money to pay for it anyway. whatever you look at it, it all comes down to bad fucking decision. I will never ever, let my wife get drunk without me around. nobody is in their own mind when they are drunk, decision are made based on the impulse, without even thinking of the consequences of the action. you're a "well known" businessman, you should know that for all people.
Actually it WAS his fault, since he was sober enough to take the incentive to stick his dick in an incoherent woman. Besides, she's human. We can't protect ourselves 24/7 from every potential threat. Maybe you should never travel via car, because - if you crash - you "should've known better and shouldn't have been in control of a moving vehicle if you couldn't handle it"?
Hire a hitman
Sounds more like a regret confession than rape...I'm with the others, dump your wife...chances are she banged him and halfway through started regretting it...you don't need the baggage + if it was my wife I'd tell her we press charges and bury this douche or I spread the stories myself.
Your wife is a stupid bitch...you have ONLY two options...and one thing that you MUST DO.
Options:
1) Dump your stupid wife who put herself in this position.
2) Keep your wife and move to another state, far away. (expect to be harassed by this guy for a long time, he will fuck with you).
What you must do: Get Even...Revenge is a dish best served cold...wait a few years, maybe like 10 yrs...then, find the guy, and finish him...you will be ready by them...but, don't let it eat you up..you wife fucked up...
BTW: I would chose option 1 above...you got a stupid wife...you will NEVER get over this.