Foreign exchange student with my husband

My daughter's school participates in an ISE program (international student exchange) and we were chosen as one of 2 host families for a 12 month session. We were paired with a lovely girl from Eastern Europe who we'll call Oksana. After the required paperwork, fees, background check, and F1 visa process she arrived. Despite a bit of a language barrier she quickly befriended our daughter and settled right in to life here in the states. From the very start I noticed my husband seemed to pay her quite a bit of attention, which I didn't find alarming. He inserted himself into situations he normally wouldn't if it meant spending time with Oksana such as volunteering to take our daughter to softball practice or trips to the mall. As time went on, he seemed to find ways to be alone with her like running errands with her when our daughter was at practice, volunteering to take her to the dentist, things like that.

Now I'm not a stupid person and know how the male brain is hardwired. OK. She is a beautiful girl with exotic features and ripe as a peach. I see the way men look at her when we go out. He's made comments about her appearance, notably her toned stomach and long legs and that her parents should consider modeling for her which I found kind of weird. In the summer she would prance around the house in her panties or tiny shorts and slept nude at first which my daughter hated because they share a room together. As a compromise she agreed to wear underwear. Apparently it's a cultural thing, one my husband seemed to advocate for. She has my husband wrapped around her little finger, always laughing, always smiling and joking, and they text quite often. The only time she texts me is to be picked up from club. She has always been a polite girl but our relationship could be described as cordial and rather cold. She doesn't hug me like she does him or our daughter. When I ask how her day is I get one word responses so I really kind of stopped trying. My husband claims I don't make an effort with her but I think that's hogwash.

When it came to Oksana and my husband's relationship there would be things that didn't sit right with me that I'd eventually chalk up to coincidence. For example he'd always plan activities in which Oksana would be wearing a bikini. Trips to the beach, trips to the lake, out on the boat, the waterpark, trips to the pool, even indoor pools when it rained. Coincidence? He's never had much interest in the beach or renting boats until Oksana was in the picture but now he's a big fan. When we vacation we'd always rent 2 rooms, one for the 2 of us and one for our daughter. But now that we have Oksana, yep, it's got to be a suite in order to "save money". Surely the fact that she walks around half naked has nothing to do with it. I caught him in her underwear drawer when they were at school and when I questioned him he quickly dismissed it. He claimed that Oksana asked for underwear and socks and didn't know her size, which I don't know if I believe. I usually do all the shopping for clothes plus this girl is barefoot 99% of the time. Does this sound normal to anyone here? When it comes to him and Oksana it's always a damn coincidence.

One morning my daughter and I left for a doctor's appointment that ended up being cancelled due her doctor having the flu so we returned home. We come back and find my husband painting Oksana's toenails in the living room. She was in her underwear, which wasn't that out of the ordinary, but she had her feet in my husband's lap. I know that he has a foot fetish and felt something was very wrong about this scenario but brushed it off. During a school break my husband was going to take the girls to a water park for a few days while I attended a work function a few hours away. On the way my car broke down and he had to cancel those plans to come get me and deal with repair. He was absolutely furious and accused me for "tanking" the trip. That night we argued and I brought up the fact that the only thing he seemed to be interested in was being with Oksana. He of course was very defensive and made it seem like he was being a father figure to some "underprivileged" soul which is complete hogwash. We've been sleeping in separate beds since that night and haven't had sex in months. I don't even want to know what's been going on at the house when I'm away for work and our daughter is at practice. With our schedules the way it is, he gets regular alone time with her about 2-3 times a week for at least a couple of hours.

I will admit that having a beautiful young lady around is kind of intimidating, especially one that is put together like her. Admittedly I am overweight and very insecure. I am determined to lose all this weight and maybe look into breasts implants. Don't know if it would make a difference or not but I'd give anything to have my husband look at me the way he looks at her. We only have a few weeks left and I can't wait for that day to come and get this little bitch out of my house. My husband has already discussed flying her back to visit but I poured cold water on that idea. I have a few ideas to put the spice back into our relationship by having him paint my toenails and wearing similar thong swimwear for our beach outings. I considered sleeping in the nude as well to see if it gets a reaction but I wouldn't find that comfortable and dairy doesn't always agree with my stomach. I will get my husband back if it's the last thing I do and slap some sense into him. I really didn't know if this was a confession or not so marked it as "rant".

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