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Inexperienced and Ashamed
I feel very inadequate, shameful, and undesirable being an older male with little to no sexual experience.
I don’t feel like I could ever attempt a relationship at this point because, if I ever did develop enough trust in someone to try to have a physical connection, I’m too awkward and have no real idea what to do. I feel like every woman finds that extremely off putting and unattractive.
Sometimes I think about hiring a professional sex worker, but I’m ashamed to explain my real situation. I wish I could find a sex worker who does realistic-feeling role play so I could “role play” this scenario without admitting it directly to someone.
I am male, married, 69. When I was a teenager I was also awkward around girls. Didn't really have a girl friend at all and never fucked until I met my (at the time) future wife in college. In the past 15 years I've been with lots of girls. I started cheating on my wife by finding girls on dating sites. Then I found escorts. And I use them a lot. My first paid escort was a bit awkward. I have since loved virtually every encounter with an escort In fact, some of the best sex ever was with an escort. I now have one escort in one city I frequent that every time I go through the city we spend a night together.
Most escorts are wonderful and will play in a way to make you very comfortable. They have truly seen it all. Pick a girl in her older 20s or 30s, even escorts in their 40s are wonderful, they have a lot of experience and will be glad to help you. Treat them with the utmost of respect. They are people just like you. They have ambitions, loves, things the likes like and dislike. Tell them your inexperience and any desires you have.
Believe me, spending 30 minutes, an hour, 2 hours, overnight with an escort is well worth the money. Any good escort will make you feel wonderful.
You can pay for the " girlfriend experience" with a sex worker. Those girls have probably seen everything and don't care as much as you think they do. You're just another client paying for services.
I was 21 when I lost my virginity and I thought I was way behind because all of my friends had been sexually active since high school. I was almost just late with kissing because a dentist told me I was tongue tied when I was 12 and I was scared that I wouldn't be able to kiss right.
Once I found a cool and cute chick, I worked my way into sex (over several sessions), and I thought I had watched enough porn to play it like I knew what I was doing. I'm married now and was able to find my stride along the way (I got my own stories to share lol).
You're making it bigger than it is. It's not that complicated and you're not alone in this day and age. Just find a prostitute/escort and get in the game.