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Sexual feelings between best friends
I’m female and my best friend is male, we have been friends since 14 both now 27
We’ve come close a few times to having sex, we are both comfortable seeing each other naked, we talk about personal and embarrassing things, if he is at my house and I’m having a bath he’s sits in the bathroom while I’m having a bath.
We tell each other in great detail if anything sexual has happened when meeting other people but never spoken about our sexual feelings between us two.
I kind of feel that we have both conditioned ourselves to block out any feelings we have for each other.
For the last 3 months he has told me he is so sexually frustrated and is masturbating lots, unknowingly to him I’ve been the same, I’m scared to let him know because it might jeopardise our friendship.
You might say just have sex you two and be done with it, but the reason we haven’t had sex in the past is because we both don’t want to ruin our friendship, as soon as you have sex with someone especially a close friend it will change the dynamics between us and it can never go back to how it was.
You didn't know that.
You're either already married for all intents and purposes or he's gay. Fuck him.
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Yeah, tough situation but it's great that you're trying your hardest to be mindful rather than just giving in. There is a very real risk it could ruin your friendship but there is a nearly equal chance going there could reveal something much deeper between you to. You need to have a fully open comfortable dialogue between you before you go there though. If you can't communicate with each other things will not go well. Express your concerns openly and really listen to one another. If you decide to go forward together just take things slow. The fact that you've both resisted this mutual lust suggests that he cares about the friendship as much as you do. Make sure you're both on the same page at every step and if things get uncomfortable speak up, don't just roll with it. You don't want to do anything that might create resentment. Also though, that frustration the two of you feel is not just going to go away. That sexual tension will just keep building between you until either something happens or one of you starts resenting the other. It's risky either way. I wish you guys luck.
If you both have sex it might enhance your friendship and take you too a whole new level of friendship and intimacy but the only way to find out is to risk everything and take a chance, you might even find that your feelings for each other are deeper then you previously thought
Best to start mutual masturbation, you will both love it.
When he told you he had been jerking off, did it "jeopardise" your relationship ? Sex is what grownups do, for fuck's sake ! As earlier advised, if you don't have the mental / emotional maturity to go there, don't do it. If you do, "friends with benefits" is a very real and workable situation.
If you express your concerns with him openly about your friendship before you suggest anything sexual, the dynamic of your friendship doesn't have to change. You also need a certain level of maturity and understanding. If you or your friend don't have those, don't go there. If you do, you might find you can have the same friendship, but with "benefits" until you find/fall in love with another person. I'd already guess that you probably shouldn't go there.