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My long-time partner is a VERY successful businesswoman, high profile in the financial industry. However, when it comes to sex she has always been very shy. Not a prude, mind you, but a very conservative upbringing and an unsatisfying marriage. As such, when she was introduced to D/s, she found a niche that she could give up the control she is required to have during the day at work, and slip into a zone where she 'doesn't have to think...she is just essentially forced to relax and take whatever is done to her/required of her.
Even though to this day, she is embarrassed to 'talk' about the things she likes, and would never, EVER let anyone outside of the two of us know what she enjoys, it is amazing to watch her 'transform' in the bedroom. In fact, several years ago, after an especially kinky (even by my standards) session, she gasped "You have forever changed my expectations for sex."
I can essentially do what I want...she especially likes to be blindfolded and completely restrained and be 'used' by me as I wish, with a very short list of 'don'ts'. And that truly is it...if it turns ME on, it turns her on...and the naughtier it is, the more she senses it turns ME on, the more into it she gets. And over the years I have gradually ramped up the intensity and expanded the sexual envelope for her. But it still makes me smile that I can completely (almost to the point of selfishly) use her for my pleasure (doing things to her that she has difficulty even 'voicing') and yet afterwards, when the blindfold is off, when the restraints are removed, and she's in the safety of my embrace, she will whisper "thank you" and sleep like a baby.
It amazes me every time. And it makes me smile to see her dressed in her power outfits for work, knowing that 'at home' she is a completely different person. If her co-workers and clients only knew.
Would love to know she got in to it ? How did you initiate it ?
She had never heard of it until I brought D/s up in a conversation...ironically, a conversation about another couple we were friends with. She asked "what is that?', so I explained the basic concept of power exchange and submission with her, and then the conversation changed directions and it wasn't mentioned again. About a week later we were having coffee and she said "You know that thing we talked about last week? I've been thinking a lot about it...and I think I would like to try that with you, if you're willing to show me." So it was actually HER idea. Even though "I" had previous D/s experience, I had never introduced it into our relationship.
The first time we did something, I blindfolded her and gently restrained her...it really wasn't anything wild. But afterwards she said it was the most erotic experience that she had ever had...that the blindfold and restraints made everything in her head 'go quiet'...that it forced her to relax and just 'take what ever happened. That was almost a decade ago...and her envelope has only become increasingly larger with what she finds erotic. Multiple orgasms. Squirting. BDSM. Things she never even knew possible. Now she just gives into the feelings and lets them happen....and she's never been happier.