Showering with my son

My husband and I both showered with our kids until they got to the age when we realized it became different.

I saw both of my parents naked as a child. That ended with my dad way earlier than my mom, dad being somewhere before high school, and mom later. My dad was a truckdriver who came home late at night, and would wake me up to spend time with me since he had usually been gone for several days. I would sit on the side of the bathtub while he bathed the petroleum smell off his body. So what? If anything, seeing my dad in normal self-care situations, nude, made the male body less of a mystery to me.

The thing is there is going to be a day when that does become different too. A normal parent will pick up on the change, and act accordingly. With my son, now 16, I don’t remember a moment when I decided to stop letting him shower with me. It was natural. Nobody felt funny, or rejected, or ashamed. I just now asked him about it, and he agrees. It wasn’t weird because we were respectful of the evolution of our relationship. I never had to tell him not to come in when I was nude. He never had to tell me that I should not bust in on him in the shower. It just happened.

I would imagine, for me personally, that never having seen the opposite sex nude in an ordinary circumstance, with no sexual energy, would be even more out of the ordinary. I mean, if my son never saw a normal woman he loved nude, without the cultural and developmental complications of puberty to deal with or the sexual pressures of adolescents, then he will never know of the female body.

Some people can say nudity in front of kids is always wrong. They’re full of shit. Concealment breeds curiosity and makes the imagination fill in the blanks. That can be bad.

I don’t think it’s healthy to make a standard for whether nudity in the home is right or wrong. It’s a sensitive area that requires the parent to feel when it becomes different.

Now if my son, or I are nude and the other is about to intrude on the bathroom or bedroom, we have a funny shout-out to let the other know we are not presentable. But that’s just our funny way of dealing with the situation of being walked in on when we are in an undressed state.

Nudity is normal. The idea that we shouldn’t see the opposite sex, until… well, until when? Are we supposed to never see an opposite sex body until we are expected to engage in sex with them.

3 months ago

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      * Longer duration of abuse
      * Frequent abuse episodes
      * Penetration
      * High degree of force, coercion and intimidation
      * Transgenerational incest
      * A male perpetrator
      * Closeness of the relationship
      * Passive or willing participation
      * Having an erotic response
      * Self-blame and shame
      * Observed or reported incest that continues
      * Parental blame and negative judgment
      * Failed institutional responses: shaming, blaming, ineffectual effort
      * Early childhood onset.

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      Incest that begins at a young age and continues for protracted periods — the average length of incest abuse is four years — often results in avoidance-based coping skills (for example, avoidance of relationships and various dissociative phenomena). These trauma-forged coping skills form the foundation for present and future interpersonal interactions and often become first-line responses to all or most levels of distress-producing circumstances.
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      An article by Sandra Stroebel and colleagues, published in 2013 in Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research and Treatment, indicates that risk factors for father-daughter incest include the following:
      * Exposure to parent verbal or physical violence
      * Families that accept father-daughter nudity
      * Families in which the mother never kisses or hugs her daughter (overt maternal affection was identified as a protective factor against father-daughter incest)
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