I'm 19 and pregnant for the second time. Not married. My boyfriend and I don't feel the need or think it matters to do so. I get my health care for me and my children from the state. It would cost a lot to have me on my boyfriend's coverage at his work if we did marry. I want him to tie his tubes after the baby is born but he is resisting. He wants me to do it. I told him that it's less evasive if he has it done instead of me. The way it looks if we don't want anymore children I will have to be the one. I can barely get him to help with taking care of our daughter now. It's like pulling teeth. I have to bitch at him and complain and then he gets mad and throws a hissy fit. I am tired at the end of the day and he expects me to take care of the baby, house, cooking, laundry, basically everything. He says he does his part by working everyday and I should be thankful for that. I am thankful he works hard but I still could use a hand with thinks like bathing our daughter. She is almost 2 years old and I end up having to hold her while I cook and clean most of the time. She really cries a lot if we aren't holding her. She sleeps with us even though we have a crib for her. Not looking forward to baby 2 now. If my boyfriend was more helpful I would be. He says I'm just being bitchy. Is it too much to ask the father of my children for some help? I don't know what to do? I love him and want to be with him most of the time. He treats me like I'm stupid at times. I saw how his father is and thought nothing of it at the time. His father constantly belittles his wife and children. I came from a loving home where both parents worked to raise the children. My mom and dad hardly had cross words. I don't like being called fucking stupid or a dumb whore. He has on several occasion hit me. But I made him mad by nagging him I should have backed off. I told him if he hits me again I will leave and not come back. I left and stayed with my mom and dad but he came and begged me to return saying he needed me and loved me. So I did. I just wish he would help out more. He gets really mad on his day off when he's playing one of his video games. I'm not supposed to bother him then.