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Wife sharing is it normal ?
I have been married for 15 years and lately for some reason I sometimes look at my wife and wonder what it would be like to watch her have sex with another man.
Lea is still a very attractive woman that teaches physical Therapy to older men and women and to tell the truth we still are not what you would call sexually active but we have sex maybe once or twice a month and Lea enjoys it but the excitement is gone now and I remember how excited she used to get and how once she really got into it she could have several orgasms when we had long sessions.
I looked into wife sharing and found many different reasons that men have this perversion and there are many reasons for it but it is common mostly with older couples.
Several times I have brought this up to my wife but she just laughs and calls me a pervert but she dose it in a kidding way.
I think I could handle watching another man do her but I am not positive but if she ever agrees I would like to see her do it even if she only dose it once.
Wife sharing thoughts are perfectly normal. I brought up the idea to my 58 year old wife one night as she was sucking my cock on the couch. I asked her if she ever desired to suck another man's cock other than mine. She stopped and to my surprise she said yes, but wanted me to be there to watch. I told her great, but who? She said that she always wanted to suck the older man who lived alone down the street. When I asked her why him, she said that her friend at work had fucked him years ago after his wife died and that he had a big cock.
I suggested to my wife to invite him over for dinner. We went and knocked on his door. We spoke to him and he was very nice and excepted to come over on a Saturday afternoon.
We had some dinner and drinks and went into the living room. My wife sat next to him and started talking about sex. My wife is not shy and just came out with "my friend said you have a big cock and I want to see if it's true" The man looked at her and asked "what about your husband?". She said it was ok as it was all his idea.
He hesitantly unbuttoned his pants and pulled them aside pulling out his cock and I have to admit it was impressive. He was thick and uncircumcised had such a huge mushroom head on it.
My wife didn't waste time, she grabbed it and started stoking it as he moaned saying how good it felt to have a woman play with his cock.
My wife then kneeled down in front of him and pulled his pants down to his ankles and started sucking his cock. I watched as she even licked his hairy balls.
After about a minute, he said he was going to cum. He let out a moan and came in my wife's mouth. She swallowed everything.
Before he left, he thanked my wife and I. It was about 3 months later he moved in with his daughter out of state.
Just becareful of what you wish for. If you hold the least the little bit of jealousy, about other men flirting with your spouse, don't do it. Definitely don't force the idea on your spouse. My wife has been sleeping with other men since our wedding night. Only because I can't satisfy her, and I'm gay. But she knew this when we married, and I knew she'd sleep with anything with a cock. So it works for us. Plus it has its fringe benefits, like eating out her creampie left by her boy toys.
However a couple of our friends have tried this lifestyle, and it's caused the to split up. Do to jealousy, and one of the two, were enjoying way more the the other one.
Not sure what "is" normal when it comes to sex, but if you have a strong relationship and can both make the distinction between who you love (spouse) and with whom it might be fun to have casual, no-strings recreational sex (others), then you might give it a try. My 1st wife would never do it, but I remarried to a lady who is a free spirit and comfortable enough in her early 40s to enjoy. In fact, we play with a couple who have been friends with her for years, long before I met her. My wife is the one who got me into it.
(Part 1) Having been into swinging for quite a while, my advise to you is to make sure your wife wants it too. Dont force her into anything she doesnt like.
It is not a perversion I tell you as long as you dont hurt anyone or 'disturb society' while doing it. It is a style of your sexual life which is your private personal affair as long as you both want it.
To test your wife, let her watch quality porn that involves a 3some, 2 males and female with a story. Not the sleezy ones you see free on the net. Or movies with those themes, like "Palm Swings", "Escapades with Friends", "Four Lovers", etc. Observe her reactions while watching. Heavy breathing? Excitement? Wet? Then make love and see it your sex is hotter. If yes, then it excites her. Talk about it before going to sleep. Or talk about actors or even real guys she knows that are hot or that you know she likes or admires. Talk about what ifs scenario. If it excites her, good. Allow her to talk without judgment on your part. She will not open up when there is no high level of trust.
Or if she loves to read, google relationship psychology articles online that talks about wife sharing or swinging or open relationships and let her read them. Especially those that says it is perfectly normal among couples and not a perversion. (See part 2)
(Part 2)
If she shows signs of interest (women with conservative upbringing wont tell you a direct yes if they are up to it. Play it by the ear), then go to the next step. Find a candidate for your first experiment. Somebody with a clean lifestyle, not a kiss and tell, and who will respect your wife. Of course, somebody he is attracted to. Never a work colleague! If you cant find anyone you know, let her create a profile on a dating site. But you have both to devote some time to screen the candidate of your choice for his character before meeting up. Make sure he is not a psycho, etc. Chat and video chat often. Dont give your actual personal details right away unless you are sure of him. Meet on a coffee shop, restaurant, or hotel if need be.
I hope this helps. Good luck on your journey. Harm none! - Poe