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A little awkward (no kissing rule)
My husband of 14 years has been urging me to opening up our bed to one of his attractive friends, either in a MFM threesome or just me having my husband and his friend have sex with me back to back. His friend is our age (38m) and is married, but separated 4 months from his wife and I've always thought he was a cute, nice guy. Known him 8 years. I said sure, let's do it, it's not cheating imo on his end, since he's separated, so we planned things out.
My husband's main rules were that his friend use condoms with me when fucking, that I don't swallow his load when doing oral, or kiss him while we're fucking. He said sex is okay, lovemaking is not. I get that. I love my husband dearly. I've never been with anyone else since we married, so I was okay with the rules.
Well, when I did start fucking his friend, it was a sea of dopamine running through our heads. I didn't really anticipate how it would feel with someone new and that I liked. It was really exciting. I told him beforehand the rules, but I could see it in his eyes that he was having a heavy emotional experience with me, really intimate. I was too. The look in his eyes was beautiful. He bent down to kiss me, and I couldn't resist, I kissed back, while we fucked. The stimulus from kissing while fucking was enough to bring me to orgasm much quicker, and I had two orgasms within minutes of each other, after which he came in his condom inside me. The sex was awesome. I fucked my husband too, of course, and he's always good, though his friend was heavenly.
After his friend left, my husband said that he was upset about the kissing. I apologized, but said his friend made the move first, and it felt natural. It would have felt unnatural not to, but I didn't know that until we started doing it.
I wouldn't mind playing with my husband and his friend again, but I'm not sure if I can follow the "no kissing" rule. I love making out while screwing, I know that now. If it is just about having something thick in my pussy, I can do that with a dildo, with no one around to kiss. I really like the spiritual/emotional dynamic of sex, and to me kissing is a part of it.
My husband doesn't want to talk about that night anymore, but I can tell it gave him a weird vibe. But wtf, it was great sex. What did he want me to have? Bad sex?
Stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. You both invite a man into your bed to FUCK YOUR CUNT but kissing is a no no? You guys are nuts.
Kissing equals intimacy. Swinging and hotwifing are about sex on the side, not intimacy and lovey dovey acts. If you want a lover or can't separate sex from intimacy, read up on polyamory. If you both agree pursue that.
I don't know why but I'm the same way with my wife. I LOVE making out with my wife while random guys are screwing her, usually at the Green Door, but I hate seeing her kiss any other guy but me or an attractive women. I know Its wack but we don't get to pick our fetishes. We don't have the same rules though. I just don't want to see that or know about her getting romantic or kissy with other men. She has her preferences of me with other women too. We both try to respect each others preferences or don't play with others until we find ways to get back on the same page
Men are such hypocrites. They want it done and on their terms, and when you do it, you're still wrong anyway. That's why it's best to keep it as a fantasy. Many can't handle reality.
Your husband feels a little betrayed and jealous, but it was his idea.