Getting Stronger

To original poster, it's been over a year now. Just wondering how the relationship with your husband is? How is the relationship with your friend? Any new stories? We would live to hear them.

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Original Poster, I was wondering if you could tell me what it is, or was, like being a pastor's wife? Is it a lonely marriage as your pastor husband visits people in the hospital, or tends to weddings/funerals, counseling sessions etc? Did your husband spend alot of time with you for a successful marriage? The reason I ask is because I am the man who posted earlier about his girlfriend running off with asouthern Baptist minister. I recently learned that she is getting married. I'm just wondering what iz in store for her. Your feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Pastors are just men like any other. Mine has always been very work driven, like many men. His work had always been top priority in his life, followed by his hobbies. So yes it’s been lonely. He’s a good, attentive husband, when he’s home. But he’s rarely home. For that reason I’ve always felt unimportant. It’s much too late now, I’m totally in love with this woman. I don’t see how he could fix it now.

Is there a good possibility then that my former girlfriend will eventually get bored and leave him? From my window looking in, its never going to work long term. Thank you for your reply!

To original poster, anything new to tell us? Have you told you husband yet, or has he found out on his own?

Nothing new to tell. We’re settled into a bit of a routine now and are having less trouble keeping our hands to ourselves when we need to. We display as friends in public and lovers in private. I’m ecstatic about this new love in my life. I’ve also learned how to give him explanations about us without lying. I know lying by omission is still technically lying. But I feel better about it. I’m totally head over heels for a woman and I’m happy about it.

Husband still doesn't know? How do you think he will react when he finds out?

He would absolutely freak. If he’d just divorce me and let me go on with her, it’d almost be worth it. I think I could just “be” with her. But I’m afraid it’d be this big “fix our marriage” ordeal with counseling and all that. For now I’m happy with it like it is. I just wish I could spend more nights with her.

I just love this story. When you've been married for many years and having vanilla sex, it becomes boring. It is natural to want another flavour. What you wanted is greater pleasure again. I am a senior man. My penis no longer works properly. When young, I allowed men to give me blow jobs. I got pleasure and they got pleasure. Now that normal sex is difficult, I find my mind has turned to alternative ideas to get pleasure. I read these stories and sometimes get hard. That's wonderful. Now I really want to give another guy a blow job. I've never given one before and was always afraid. Once I did try but ran out on the guy when my mind and stomach said no way. I almost vomited. That was many, many years ago when I was about 20 perhaps.
I took a chance recently and uninvited, I took hold of another man's package and squeezed several times before he removed my hand. It felt GREAT.
So I did it again. Push the envelope.

Okay, so I feel a little guilty. I took her to a women’s retreat (Christian) and my husband was happy about her spiritual growth. She really is growing along those lines. But the fact we slept together, had sex in the hotel all week kind of brought the fact of our incessant lying to reality. I truly feel bad, but apparently not bad enough. I want to be with her, really with her. We spent a wonderful week together, we traveled over an hour, twice to another town so we could be “together” publicly. It felt so good, I so wish this was every day.

Would you consider teaching your children about all the aspects of sex by showing them how by doing it with them? You have already crossed the moral line, why not have all the fun you can get out of it. It may bring you and your children all the more closer.

There is a similar post to yours a few clicks down about a woman who found herself experimenting with a woman about your age. During a heavy make out session, her son walked into the room and seen his mom in an embrace position with the woman in their bras and panties. The situation is about identical to yours. Are you this woman as well, just different post? Have you talked with your son? Have you had to talk to your husband yet, or is everything still under the radar so to speak? Would love to hear more about what your doing and how you feel.

I am not that woman. Though reading her post gave me courage to come clean with mine because of the similarities. I have not talked with my kids about any of this. I wouldn’t know how to introduce it. After all, I am cheating on their dad with this woman. I absolutely will not be including them.

Have you had any thoughts about introducing your daughter to your new found lifestyle? The three of you may enjoy it.

I have two children. A daughter who’s 13, son who’s 11.

O.P., how many children do you have, ages, gender?

We have had sex in my bed, her bed, and hotels. Have been very careful so far and not even close to caught. Or not that I know of. I don’t think anyone suspects. We’re very good at being friends in public. As for what to do about my kids.... I don’t know. The fact that I’m cheating on my husband, and with another woman doesn’t change what the Bible says about them. I’m doing something (or two things) that are very wrong. But for now I’m going to continue. I don’t know if I’m bi or gay. I suspect the latter. But that doesn’t change the Bible.

O.o, do you have any children? How will you explain this to your children after teaching them for years to live a Christian lifestyle?

Can you tell us what you and your new lover are doing?

Have you been having sex in your marital bed? What's the closest you have been to being caught by hubby? Any encounters at the church? Does any one suspect what you're doing?

What would you like to know?

OP here. She and I have become very close friends in public. Behind the scenes were are a couple. My interest in him is almost completely gone. I still have sex with him out of pure obligation because I’m not ready to have this conversation yet. I know it’s wrong, but I’m happier than I’ve been in my entire life. I’m a married woman, totally in love with a woman. Luckily husband has always had a relatively low sex drive.

Any updates? Have you told your husband, or did he find out on his own?

Hi all, I’m the OP. I have given into my desires, and contrary to my hopes, they did not fizzle out. I’m now in the middle of a deep, passionate affair. I’m questioning if I am, or ever was straight.

My husband and I go on vacation with another couple pretty regularly. The guys are always teasing that when they are out on the UTV's that we are back in the RV park making out. Recently we went out to the dunes and while the guys were out, I was taking a nap. I thought I was having a sex dream when I realized that my gf had her hand under my shorts teasing my pussy. I was so turned on. I continued to pretend to be asleep but spreading my legs a little wider. My pussy was dripping wet. I could hear her licking my pussy juice off her fingers and heard her finger her own pussy. This is going to be a new chapter of our friendship because like you I cant wait to see her again.

To just lay, running my hands over the soft curves of her feminine body is the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen. I’ve never seen/experienced it from this perspective before. We’ve had sex four times now and I’m on fire all the time.

So it’s Sunday morning. I’m honestly only looking foreword to church today because I know she’ll be there.

Are you still going to keep up the relationship with your new friend? Will your husband allow it to continue? Any updates?

My last girlfriend left me for a southern Baptist minister who was married with 4 children. I'm curious to know if you will tell your husband, or let him "discover" things on his own.

I don’t have any idea what the future holds right now. I’m very mixed up. I’m truly sorry for your experience

I don’t know if anyone cares to hear from me, and a part of me hopes no one reads this, but I have to confide somewhere.
She and I met again yesterday, and I, a Baptist minister’s wife had sex with a woman. We spent all afternoon together, the kissing, the exploring, the fondling, it just went on and on. It must’ve taken us an hour to get completely naked. I’ve never experienced sex that was so in the moment. There was no rush to a destination. The attention she gave my breasts alone is like nothing I’ve ever experienced before.
When she, umm, went down.....I now know the meaning of the word “ecstasy”. There is no way I’m giving this up.
After the longest time just holding, caressing, kissing, recouperating, she encouraged me to taste her. I thought “could I”? She whispered “I’ll help you”. So I kissed my way down, and finally reached her vagina. She had me just hold there, taking in her essence, her scent. It was stronger than I expected, but not in a bad way. It was beautiful. Finally she told me to begin, the taste was also strong, but so right. To bring a woman to trembling orgasm was something I want to do again and again. I’m in deep.

You know what to do. Kiss her deeply and have sex. It’s ok, Jesus won’t mind

Threesome with you, her and hubby!