Any advice is welcomed
I’m 32 and my wife is 30 we have been married for 8 years have kids normal life etc. we have never had just great sex or sex on a frequent manner. I have always been open to try stuff to keep thing interesting but nothing too crazy with former people I dated. My wife is not a very sexual person I’ve tried to offer ideas or tell her I want sex more often and she never seems to care and says sex just isn’t important to her. I’ve mentioned trying toys before and she has said she doesn’t know why I would be ok with her using them or me using them on her. I’ve even tried to ask ab former guys she has been with just for curiousity or maybe see if they did things I don’t to make sex better for us and she acted like it was weird. I never really knew my wife in school she was younger and ran with a different crowd. I do know one guy she dated and I’m not sure if they ever had sex but this guy had the biggest dick I’m talking huge and I’ve honestly been so turned on thinking ab if she fucked him and how good he must have fucked her. I know that’s weird but for some reason it is hot to me. I’ve also encouraged her to dress sexy but she doesn’t and wears simple panties never thong or lace boyshorts. I’ve known of one time she did dress up at work she bought a skirt that was stretchy material and really showed off her ass she always wears pantyhose as her legs have to be covered at work. I told her that night how good she looked and tried to touch her but she wasn’t into it and I told her I liked her dressing like that and mentioned maybe wearing sexy panties and thigh high stockings instead of ful pantyhose but she didn’t seem to care. I’m honestly just at a loss with the fact that she isn’t very sexual yet I love the idea of her dressing sexy and getting attention plus the thoughts of her with the guy that had the big dick.... but how would I ever mention any of that considering she. Shuts down anything I say?!