I have wanted my wife to be more open and experiment in our sex life. She has dabbled a tiny bit, but now seems to have lost her desire. I am constantly looking at porn, trying to fulfill my fetishes. I asked her if she could give me a visual so i can release tension in the shower. She took her shirt and bra off as she kept getting ready so i could watch as i pleasured myself. Last night, i was masterbating in bed and shaking the whole mattress. She just rolled over. Should i believe she has lost her desire, or is she living a secret life? I told her im willing to do anything to help her, and her response is i know. Any advice?