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Don't do it
For as long as I could remember I have been after my wife to have a 3 some with me and another man , and or have sex with a guy or two as I watched. The day after our New years party this finally happened. I cannot get the images of the guys doing her out of my head. At first it was the biggest turn on that anyone could imagine. Now I wish I had never asked her to do it. How can I have done this and how can I get past this. We as a couple seam to be fine still and have talked a few times about the event. Yet I still can't stop thinking about everything.
Your wife and you are sexually incompatible, just read this:
http://www.doctornerdlove.com/2014/08/are-you-sexually-compatible/
or listen to the savage love cast.
What? Another fringe fantasy that turned out to be less than you expected?
Another cuck fantasy, boring!
Sounds like your life story, eh?
She is banging the dude behind your back now. Is she doing a lot more shopping and seems freshly showered now more? Odd text messages? Late night calls??
Know how you feel.
Just embrace it dude, you and your wife got to do something that's taboo together, you're both deviants now, or at least more sexually exploratory than most WASPs. Think about it, if you had to bury a body who would you call? Probably your closest friend or family member, the person who you've gone through some sh!* together with. Now, you've gone through some sh!* with your wife, which means you're closer. All I get to do with my wife is talk about business, the kids, church or f*@k!ng taxes.
I'm trying but it's difficult man
You don't say why this bothers you. Maybe she really enjoyed it? That's why people fuck. Maybe she ws more abandoned? She's not worried about him, just herself and that means abandon. She's probably fantasied about this since you have been asking and part of her excitement was the fact she was pleasing you. I think you're in for a great future. Go listen to some swinging podcasts. They discuss what you are feeling. We Gotta Thing is good and they link to others that might even be better.
Thanks for the suggestions
I say just roll with it. It turned you on initially. Most likely you're regretting it because you feel like there's something wrong with yourself for liking it. But there isn't so just enjoy it.
Part of it is I feel they were bigger and better so I feel like I don't know how to compete with that