Threesome gone bad

Have a mfm three some have the other guy be a dom may make him take some cock

Threesomes are tricky things. I’ve had two, one with a girlfriend and another girl at my girlfriend’s suggestion. Disastrous as the other girl was a lesbian and didn’t want me there. We were in our late teens.
Next one was a friend and his wife in my mid thirties. I suppose it was his wife that started it because I was extremely fit then and she had the hots for me. She wasn’t shy about it and once we got going it soon became evident that her hubby (my friend) liked being told what to do.
He and I began to experiment the homosexual side of it and his wife, not unnaturally, soon shut the whole thing down.
I lost a friend and as much as I enjoyed the threesome, perhaps it would’ve been better if I’d considered the consequences beforehand.
I still remember the thrill, though and when I wank, remembering things we did always gets me off.
This is just a brief précis of what happened and I posted a more detailed account of what happened on this site a while ago.

I don't think Jane really wanted to have a threesome, which is evident by the way she went half-ass when trying to pleasure you. You might as well have shut things down at that point. This was going to be a disaster. Instead, she fucked your husband all night while you were left out. I think she was the main problem. She just wanted your husband's dick.

Was he even wearing a rubber when you came back; I'd have him tested for STDs. One man on here got them from just oral. You all made a horrible decision. I'd make the appointment and force him to go.

I don't see it as your fault. Ground rules were broken. Personally, I would've announced to Matt that Jane didn't want to be part of the threesome when she said in a bit and would've had him pull out and gotten into you which would've forced her to go back to the threesome. With them breaking the rules, I would want revenge. Personally, I would go to work and at the end of the day I would knee Jane hard in the pussy and say "Ready yet, are you horny now. That is what you get for breaking the rules". It wouldn't bruise and would be her word against yours. I would go home and do the same to Matt. Sounds mean, but you would feel tons better. I would then let him read what you wrote on here and explain how you felt and that you would divorce him before you did another one. Believe me, he will ask again or cheat if you don't let him know how against it you really are.

What did he do take a stay hard pill??? He must have to have acted like that. He was very rude and inconsiderate to you. He only had one rule not to kiss or make love to her and he couldn't even do that??? No trust. You can't trust someone who breaks the rules and could care less how you feel. No way I'd just brush this under the rug. Your being ok about the threesome depended on him following your simple request and when he did that then he lost the right to say that you said it was ok. You never said it was ok for him and her to turn it into a cuckhold and romantically kiss and everything. There's no way I would ever be able to get over what happened if I was you. You were upset in the end because you saw firsthand how little he cared about you and your marriage. I'd kick him to the curb and find a husband who won't ask you to share him with someone else. He's a loser.

He will treat you nice and butter you up and ask for another threesome or just out and out cheat. He wanted to cheat and Jane and him just wanted to do each other obviously and cared nothing about sharing in a real threesome. I see heartache in your future. There is no way he will stop at her. You took away his feeling bad about cheating and now anything will go. I would have a heart to heart and tell him if you even think he is cheating that you will divorce him on grounds of adultery. He didn't abide by the verbal contract and conditions of your threesome, so he null and voided your agreeing to let him cheat. The worst thing you can do is pretend all is good, because I promise you he isn't over it and probably never be over touching someone besides you. Sex is a bonding agent and when one does it with more than one, it causes them to bond with womankind which is why some men can't be faithful. You should've seen that your marriage was in trouble when he had the gall to ask you to have sex with someone else; that is never an innocent thing and you can bet he thought about it a bunch before he brought it up. I'd utilize marriage counseling, the use of a preacher, prayer, and anything else that can bring you closer.

Did he even use a condom the last time??? If she talked him into breaking the rules by putting you out of the threesome, kissing her, and not stopping when you went to leave, then she could've talked him into doing her without the protection. I would find out and if they did, I would refuse more sex till he was tested for sexually trans. diseases. What you should've done was told your husband that Jane didn't want to be part of the threesome since she quit doing you and that he was to put himself into you. THat would've put her to the side instead of you.
You also let him do a girl just over the age of consent and he isn't going to let that go. If you don't want to be cheated on then you have to safeguard your marriage; he has already shown that he doesn't play by the rules. I would invite a preacher over and tell him what happened which makes your husband take his part of the blame in talking you into this mess in the first place, the I would insist on marriage counciling. When your marriage partner gets to the point of asking you to cheat, then something is very wrong. Quit blaming yourself and make him take his part in this. Use Clorox on the floor where he and Jane did it; put your kid's toys there if you have any; do anything to make that spot unattractive to him. No matter how he acts or what he says, you introduced strange sex into your marriage and it will never be the same ever, so you had better take procautions or you will be cheated on. Good luck.

You should tell him that you are going to do another one and this time you pick the man since he got to ok Jane. Tell him the rule is he has to watch and not leave at all. You kiss the guy romantically but not him so he can see how he made you feel. There is no way I would leave this as is. He didn't care about your feelings at all and broke the rules you set up. This is the only way to show him how you felt and he will feel something watching another man do you and you kissing him passionately ect. You will always be upset looking into that living room and seeing Jane at work until your husband is made to see how wrong that was and believe me he would be jealous seeing you just like you felt when he was looking crazy because he was more excited about fucking her than he ever did when he fucked you. Also, when he pulled out of you and started fucking Jane missionary, not paid attention to you, didn't care when you left, when Matt looked over at Jane and said, "I want that pussy of yours(which I think was inconsiderate talk), and when they had their tongues down each other's throats and your husband's hands all over her tits as he plowed away while he was kissing her after you said not to and he did it anyway. Don't let Jane win like she did when she kept asking if he was ready, pushed you out, and got him to kiss her romantically. She won't win if he sees another man doing you and realizes how it hurt you and how it feels. And also, maybe your husband will change his mind on wanting other tail besides yours because that is all that the threesome was about.

Like someone else stated, I wouldn't let this be the best time of his life. I would tell him Jane told you she had an STD and that you all had to get tested. I would make the appointments ahead of telling him and I would be sure to let everyone know that he tricked you into a threesome and then kicked you to the side so he could cheat alone with her. He will never forget what happened there and he will want more unless you somehow make him realize it wasn't right.

You were in trouble when you allowed him to talk you into it. People who do threesomes all the time don't really care about the marriage relationship. When he first talked to you about it, it was your warning bell that he wanted sex from someone besides you; that you were no longer enough. That would've been the time to seek marriage counciling and see a preacher and perhaps bring your parents in on it. All of these people would put him in the spot to where cheating and threesome wouldn't be as desirable anymore. Look on this site; most men start cheating in their 40's/50's if they are the better ones because this is when they realize they are getting old and that is when a marriage needs more attention than ever. Even if you all get past this hurtle, he will cheat later because you made it part of your marriage by saying yes. Get help now and maybe you can get his attention back on you, because as one poster said you gave him the best night of his life and he isn't going to forget that no matter what you think or how he is acting now. It isn't like he is going to really tell you how he feels. Get help now and make him see that it was wrong. If he doesn't get that it was wrong, he will go on to do it again.

You should've never allowed any woman to have power in your marriage and allowing him to have sex/view porn is allowing that because it never/never/never/never stops there. The fact that he even had the balls to ask it in the first place should've sent warning bells off. The man forgot about his own wife; that is horrible. I would say you can kiss this marriage goodbye and that is from 26+ years of experienced marriage and watching others and hearing about other people's troubles. Once you allowed him to see the grass was greener on the other side is the day you really lost him. He may act like everything is ok, but you can bet his mind is on nothing but getting tail somewhere else. If you want your marriage at all then you had better go to counciling. That is the only way that you can make him face what he talked you into and how it made you feel and why he needs to get himself under control. More than likely this didn't come from nowhere and he is either looking at work or watching porn, which is very harmful as it escalates to the watcher wanting to do what they see just as your husband did. Go to counciling if you want to save your marriage, because he will cheat later as you introduced it into your marriage already.

Any man who has the audacity to suggest a threesome or swinging is already looking for sex elsewhere and has decided the specialness in the marriage isn't special anymore. If I were dating someone like that, I would've told him/her to hit the road, because it only gets worse from there on out. If I was married to someone like that I would've requested prayer in Church and let everyone know he is wanting to cheat. I would make sure both of our parents knew. We would council both with the preacher and marriage counciling. I would've divorced before I would stand for cheating, swinging, or a threesome. You didn't warm up to the idea, he just made you think you did so that you would feel it was more your idea and he could always say that you agreed. Don't allow him to use that as an excuse not to talk about what happened. Not only did he not care about keeping that specialness in your marriage, but he violated the rules and romantically kissed her and who knows what else when you left or went to bed. If you don't let him know how wrong things were for you and how you feel, then you will be dealing with an out and out cheater. By this time he is already cheating if he is going to and that will spell trouble for your marriage down the road when you hit your 40's and 50's when men tend to cheat the most.

A threesome is a man's way of saying he wants sex from someone besides his wife and wants to cheat without being blamed. He simply wore you down and made you think you wanted it and sent you to work to bring him some sex right into your livingroom. Look at the facts: he was looking at her like he never looked at you; he didn't care you were so hurt that you were walking out the door; and he kissed her and broke his word to you. How is it to look at that floor? How is it to go to work and see "Jane, I tricked you and put you to the side so I could make fun of you by doing your husband in front of you and show you he want me more than you"? Wives like you fall for that threesome line all the time? You took what was special in your marriage away. Now that Pandora's box has been opened, your husband will continue to cheat in one way or the other sooner or later. Better tell him how you felt. Better let him know how you felt about him breaking the rules. I would make him go to couples therapy, because if you don't get a handle on this right now; he will continue to cheat. You felt inferior because you knew he had forgotten you existed and this is the first time he has let you see that side of him. Better get some help and not let him think of that time as the best ever.

Wow, you have problems when you make an agreement with your husband and he can't keep it. Also, he cared so little for the agreement and your feelings that he kept at it when you were leaving upset. Sounds like he wanted to cheat in a way that he wouldn't be at fault and warmed you up to the idea by showing you threesome porn. People in those videos have sex constantly; real husbands and wives have feelings and things don't happen like they do onscreen. Want to know why he was interested in cheating and not sharing a sex experience with you, by the way he pushed you out of the way and went to her. Also the way he looked and acted was the actions of a pig. You did something that most wives would never do and that is the way he repaid you? When he realized that you weren't in the threesome then he should've stopped to see what was happening and reincluded you The fact that he didn't shows his real intentions on wanting this threesome. He just wanted tail and my bet is he will continue with or without you knowing.

Makes me wonder how things ended. Did you just go off and leave them alone after seeing them kissing? When did she leave? Did he kiss her goodbye and tell her it was the best evening? Did he feel bad at all for scrapping the rules and making it a twosome?
Personally, I would've never done anything like that, but if I were you I would get an apology for his kissing her and making the threesome all about her instead of something you were sharing together. At the end, you say it was your fault, but remember that you both made/agreed to these rules together and he violated your trust. I would make sure he knew exactly how that night made you feel. You have a right to your feelings especially since he went wild on her and then started kissing her. He should've said game over when you were going out the door. He is in the wrong; he should've cared about your feelings. This marriage isn't all about him and neither was that night, so make sure he knows how you feel and how he let you down. It is better to get stuff out then to hold it in; it will never get better on its own.

Personally, I'd make sure he knew he should've stopped when he realized you were going to leave.

You know he is going to be comparing your body to hers. He might even think of her when he is doing you. I'd make sure that he looks at you and interacts with you when you do it. Have him say your name. I'd also watch him for a real long while. You knew him to some degree before this happened, but you don't know this man that he is now. He let you walk out of your house without stopping you because he was more interested in someone else. Just because he acts like everything is ok and that he isn't thinking of it means nothing. You opened Pandora's box. You had better start damage control. You may think you don't need to, but you just let him have the best time of his life; he isn't just going to forget about that especially when there are so many willing women where he works and everywhere else, including finding Jane and reconnecting.

Next time Jane skips work, I'd leave sick and see if she meets him. He will let things cool down and then he will use Facebook or another way to contact her or she will try to contact him. You can bet this isn't over. Why didn't you choose a plain girl if you were going to do something like this? Young, 20, blond, slim? Are you crazy. Wonder why he was looking crazy at her; he was banging the shit out of her and getting his wish to cheat with an we agreed to cover his butt. He will never look at you the same way again. He will have his eyes on young girls from here on out. He also won't think twice about cheating with people he meets. You've done taken the weirdness, the restraint, and the consequences away and left him with temptation, a new hunger, and a knowledge of how a strange young body feels.

He kept on after you left; that should tell you something. Better keep your eye on things and really set down some ground rules from here on out.

At the end of your story, you said that it was your fault, but it wasn't. Both you and your husband decided on this life altering choice and he needs to own up to his part in it. Don't let him get by just because you agreed to it. He needs to understand that this is a painful memory for you and that he handled the situation wrong and abused your trust. Tell him he made your feel inferior and that his choice to try to get you to do this activity hurt you and your thoughts about your marriage. I would explain the look on his face and how he handled things by taking all of it too far and abusing the agreement you had. If you don't let him know it was wrong, then it is going to keep upsetting you. He needs to answer for his wrong to you.

Can't believe how selfish he was. He knew he was breaking the rules you set in place before all of it and he knew you were upset. I'd jump his butt about breaking them and going over the top with Jane. I'd tell him to imagine a guy plowing into you in the living room and you forgetting him and acting like that guy was the best you ever had. Ask him how he would feel about the living room and how he would feel going to work seeing this person. I'd make sure he had some regret; don't want to leave him thinking about Jane and young girls or he will start wondering that way and cheating.

When you were leaving; he should've stopped. I would really chew his rear about that and the fact they broke the rules and he kissed her. He didn't have to be such an animal about all this. He had had her once and he didn't stop when you got upset; no excuse for that. Don't let him get away with it.

They turned your threesome into a cuckhold and threw the rules in your face; no wonder you are mad. You had to watch your husband cheat in the last part of that and since he broke the rules then it is cheating. He knew you were upset and ready to leave and he should've cared enough to end it there. Tell him you are mad. Tell him he broke the rules and didn't even care to stop when he saw how hurt you were. Tell him that memory might be the best he has, but that day is the worst day of your life. Tell him the words, forty, cuckhold, threesome, young blond, ect are going to be trigger words to the worst day of your life. Tell him when you look in the living room all you are going to remember is his betrayal; it is betrayal because he didn't stop when he saw your pain and the rules were broken. He went on to break them further by kissing her. Tell him he made that the worst experience of your life and you won't ever forget it. He didn't use it as an experience for you both; he used it to cheat. He could've stopped; he didn't have to break the rules; and he didn't have to go crazy on that girl and keep doing her like he did. He was wrong. Quit blaming yourself entirely and confront him and make him share in the blame. I agree with some of the others; you can't leave this as a good memory for him. You need to let him know that he hurt you and that he violated your home and trust by not stopping and putting an end to it when he knew that it upset you.

How could you let them keep at it after they weeded you out? I would've kicked him in the balls after he broke the rules and acted like that and that would've been during it. It would've ended fast and she would've been out the door. Instead you let your husband fuck a girl many times; that is going to be the best memory of his life. I'm with another poster, you need to make that memory not a nice one for him by talking about divorce or whatever it takes to really rattle him. He can find her on Facebook or they could lay out of work and meet. You need to address this. It was a threesome, but when he broke the rules, the last part of it became cheating.

You should've never left. I would've kicked her,thrown hot water on them or threw glass against the wall to get them to stop. Did it ever occur to you while you were out they got each others info.? In his mind this is a great memory. He was giving it to someone half his age. He isn't going to forget that no matter what he tells you. He may even be cheating or jacking off thinking about her. He may be waiting till now when things have died down to try to start it back up. You need to try to make that night not as special. That night needs to be anxiety for him instead of the best memory he has. Since he violated your rules and turned the threesome into a twosome that you consider that cheating and that nothing else you did/said applies because he broke the rules. It doesn't matter if you don't do these things; it just matters that it will cause him anxiety and when he thinks of that night it won't be as special. Tell him you are considering telling your alls parents and asking what they think of him violating the rules and your marriage by not following them. If you have kids, tell him you are thinking of telling the kids that daddy wants another woman. If you do/don't go to church; doesn't matter. Tell him you are thinking of getting a preacher to visit. Tell him you want him tested for diseases since that skunk sleeps around. Ask him what day he wants to take off so you can go to a doctor and tell him that your husband cheated and needs to be tested for all diseases. He violated the rules and I think he sort of bullied you into a threesome by using his birthday as an excuse. Since he broke the rules, he did cheat, so quit taking all the blame because you set it up and allowed it. You were giving him a gift, not saying they could mate like bunny rabbits and kiss. He bonded and you had better do something to make him sorry or he will feel it is alright and go on behind your back.

You should've said game over when things didn't feel right, not just allow it to go on and on and on. When your friend left you out, then she disrespected you and so did your husband. You need to get him to see that.

You just set him up to have affairs. No man can just have sex even if it is to porn; they imagine that it is them giving it to her. He probably wanted to cheat without feeling guilt. If you go to Church, I would request prayer for him openly saying that he is thinking about another woman or say something in front of his family. If you don't get him to feel bad about it, he will fantize and do it again behind your back. Nut jobs will comment on this, but that is because they don't care about your marriage or future. Either get him to see it was wrong to even ask you to do this or you will be cheated on.

And this is one of the reasons why I don't want to do a threesome anymore. A similar thing happened to my friend's mom, but my mom's friend's boyfriend fell in love with the other woman.

Of course he was more into her. She was something new to him, he's had you many times. It doesn't mean he likes her more or loves you any less. If your threesome was with another man, I guarantee you would be more excited about the other man than your husband. That's the whole point of a threesome. You need to talk with your husband about how it made you feel, and if he can not ease your jealousy, threesomes are not for you.

This is a rant because they broke the rules not about jealousy. Any partner would be mad and jealous if her husband and the other person made the threesome into a twosome and broke the other rules that were agreed upon before it even happened. It is a breach of trust. You don't seem to get it; it wasn't a threesome anymore if it turns to two. She has a right to be mad and upset. If they had included her then she wouldn't be writing here.

I've had a bad experience with a threeway too--bf was WAY more into fucking the other girl than playing with me. It also sounds like Jane was not bi, and was simply into taking your man. I hope feelings didn't develop between the two.

I don't agree that you should do another with two guys. Threesomes/group sex is not for everyone. I'd call it a day, reconnect with Matt, and don't let him touch other pussy than your own.

Time for another threesome, this time MMF and enjoy. Your welcome.

This is the exact reason, now that I'm married, I no longer have threesomes. Someone is always left out feeling like the third wheel. Not to defend Matt but it's only natural that he's going to gravitate to someone new.

Here's how you make things equal. Tell Matt you want to have another one but this time you want two guys. Surely there's some guy from work or one of his friends that you'd love to fuck. Get it setup and this time YOU'LL be the center of attention instead of the other woman. Good luck!

I think you really should do this and tell it is only fair and that after this one no more cheating from either of you. Ask him how he felt being left out and watching his wife fuck another.

You're pathetic. If you're going to do this shit do it 100%. You are the kind of wife that gives all wives a bad name.

He didn't abide by the rules of the threesome; you are the kind of poster that gives posters a bad name because you don't read the story closely. The whole point of the rant was that she was weeded out and then he broke the rules to kiss the slut. You're pathetic.

No she wanted them to include her dumb butt that is why they call it a threesome; the other two made it into a twosome.