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Wife told me she’s not satisfied with our sex
My wife and I have a decent sex life. Goes in spurts but we generally enjoy it when it happens. Were married 8 years, I’m 42, she’s 37. We are an attractive couple.
This morning when we woke up, after talking about sex we had last nite, she said that she was thinking of “spicing things up” a little bit. I asked her what she meant, and she said she was thinking about bringing another man into the bedroom, no emotional strings attached. Right away my chin dropped at the thought of it, as i have never done this before. She said not to freak out, she read that many couples do it under agreed terms, and it betters their sex lives.
I am KIND OF up for it if it will make her happy. However, she wants it be someone we know who we can trust. She mentioned an ex boyfriend of hers who is a mutual friend of ours as a possibility. He’s now married too. Good guy, we see him around mutual friends. Now the GOOD with this is, we know the guy and he respects me with my wife. Their time has passed. What WORRIES me about it is, from what my wife has told me about him, they had VERY rough sex. Kinky, even degrading stuff. Even her friends have told me when we first started dating in a joking manner.
QUESTION: Is she trying to relive what she had with this guy? Or is she really trying to better OUR sex life?
She wants him. That’s what really turns her on. Now that she’s had you she prefers him in comparison. She is trying to legitimize cheating on you with him under the pretense of “spicing things up” with him as the 3rd. You’ll find the sex will be all about the two of them if you agree. You will be left out. Literally cucked. In fact, she may already be cheating on you with him now. You might want to look into it for any red flags. Whatever you do don’t consent. Just up your game and give her the rough stuff. Go BDSM on her and break out the hardware. Riding crops, whips, chains, handcuffs, swings, etc. If she pressures you for that guy hold out. Get her to consent to you bringing in women first. Then go crazy on her. Even get a couple of hookers to join you and pass them off as you coworkers or acquaintances.
I say she liked the rough kinky stuff and she doesn’t care who does it but she wants what she wants.