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My Wonderful Wife Doesn't Want To Fack or be Facked.
I am a Christian and know that using the word "fack" in place of the other is my best way to describe how I am feeling and yet not use "the word!"
Basically, I struggle with my relationship as it is the only real issue with it, because she is wonderful! I love her and have no desire to cheat, but I have been tempted, thankfully God has never tempted me beyond my threshold.
I long for affection and connection, but realise that she may not be capable of that type of intimacy. Our love life is robotic and utilitarian in nature and I can count on 1 hand how many time I felt like she wanted to be there. She never hugs me or kisses me or even cuddles with me, it is my challenge.
I am in my late 30's and am very personable and am mistaken for late twenties... I have learned how bad it is to be lonely, but love her and God so much that I am destined to sacrifice and suffer. The worst part is that she is so sexy, and is stunningly attractive and in nearly perfect, yoga shape.
Between you and God, it hurts but it is the right thing to do, even though women think I have the perfect wife and sex life, and have told me they would love to fack me, I play the right cards each time, but secretly wrestle with the wild card I have inside. Pray for me and those struggling, I pray for you! God bless!
God wants you to be miserable? Does that make any sense to you at all.
So you think that you are just a puppet, and God is making all the moves in your life. Re: "Thankfully God has never tempted me beyond my threshold."
Dude, it's not God doing it. It's all you. Do it, or don't do it. But it's all you, not God.
I can see why she'd act like she didn't want to be there and how your love life is robotic and unsatisfying when you're a 30+ year old man who can't even bring himself to type the word "fuck", let alone maybe say it a few times mid-coitus. There's no 11th commandment that says "Thou shall not drop F-bombs" dude.
Want to know why she seems bored? Because she is! Go up to her one night and just whisper in her ear: "I want to bend you over and fuck the hell out of you". You'd need a digital timer and a stop-motion camera to figure out how fast her panties would be on the floor.
My wife was in her early 30s when she started menopause. She lost most of her desire to be intimate and it has wrecked our marriage. It is a medical thing, I get it , but her lack of caring or trying to do anything about it is the problem. She refused any kind of hormone treatment from the start. So, I am left with the mood swings, the depression, the lack of sex and stuck with someone who is really a different person than I married mentally. Sex may not always be the most important part of a relationship but healthy sex, it seems, is always part of a strong and healthy relationship. We marry to have a monogamous relationship between two people. When one of them decides they no longer want to address the desires of the other, that person can't stay fulfilled in the relationship. We have fought over this issue for 10 years now and in our mid 40s, there is just too much temptation out there for me. If I can't have sex at home, I will find it where I can.