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Dating a mama's boy
I've been dating my boyfriend for about three months. He's 23 and I'm 25. I don't know if I can handle much more, and it isn't because of him. We're fine. It's his mom who is the problem. He was raised as an only child by his mom. His mom divorced his dad when he was two. His dad has been absent in his life thereafter. He was raised solely by his mom, who is now 52. His mom never remarried. She is very attractive and upper class, so I'm not sure why she didn't.
His mom texts him non-stop and it's annoying, like 30-40 texts a day. She doesn't work, as she is wealthy through inheritance, so she has plenty of time on her hands. I've met her a few times and it's been weird. She greets my boyfriend--her son--with kisses on the mouth. That should have been the initial red flag.
Last week I went out to lunch with just her and she gave me backhanded compliments the whole time. She liked my nails, and asked where I got them done. I said I do them myself, and she gave me a disgusted look and said "Oh, I thought you were the type who could get them done professionally." She asked me about the gym I go to. I told her and she asked who my personal trainer was. I said I didn't have one. She shook her head and said, "I don't know why you even go then, because that is a waste." She then said I looked good anyway. The weirdest thing was when she asked me "Do you know how to give him a good blowjob?" That was a weird thing to ask me about her son. I said "I think I'm fine." I know how to suck a dick, thank you.
I later told my boyfriend about my meeting with his mom and how fucked up it was, especially the blowjob comment. I said it was like she knew what he liked in a blowjob and had done it. He confessed that his mom did give him blowjobs as a teen, but it hasn't happened in years. Okay, that was too much information. I asked if they did more, and he said yes, he did fuck his mom many times growing up. He said he was young and didn't have a girlfriend and mom was a placeholder until he got one.
That maybe explains a few things about her mentality. I swear she thinks of her son as hers and no one else is good enough for him. My boyfriend said he doesn't fuck his mom anymore, and that he will talk to her about cooling down and leaving us alone.
It can't come soon enough. She is a constant presence in our lives. She comes over unannounced, crashes our outings, wants to spend weekends with us, etc. It's way too much. I'm already burned out in this relationship and it just started. I feel like I'm sharing him with her, if that makes any sense. If I ever married him, I'd have the mother in law from Hell.
He must be indian
You should tell your boyfriend some of your concerns like you've mentioned here.
That sounds like a lot of red flags for a long term relationship.
If your boyfriend then gets all defensive about his mom, and doesn't get your concerns, that will be your answer that there is no good future with him.