Why are heteros so mean to homos?
I swear that I just don't understand why so many rigidly "straight" people are so afraid of us others who kindly declare that we don't feel recognized as humans deserving respect in that rigidly defined view of the world.
It's not as though there's any material loss involved in letting us have enough space to breath and live, and to do what we need to do, as in work so that we can pay our bills, for instance, just to mention that most basic of human needs, not to mention a few others.
I put the word straight in quotation marks because I have a serious suspicion that that the most virulent homophobes are those who live in fear of discovery that they might be not as straight as they claim and are protesting, like Lady Macbeth, just a bit too much, as if the presence of the truth that variance exists is a threat to their masquerade as alleged heteros.
To them, I offer the truth that, as soon as you come out and stop dragging all that your masquerade requires around with you, every minute of every day, there's not a lot that changes, apart from losing the claustrophobic burden of living in denial. The same and new practical life problems still exist, just as they would, anyway, but there's a levity, a lightness of being, that happens, when you know that you're being honest with yourself, and that's all that it is about, making it easier to live the one short live that one is granted, rather than having to struggle through the sludge of pretending to belong where you know that you don't.
It amazes me that so many homersexuals somehow believe that all straight people who dislike poofsters are somehow actually gay. It's just a denial mechanism to make themselves believe that they are more normal than they really are. It makes about as much sense as thinking that everyone who says they disapprove of murderers are actually closeted murderers. Fact is, homosexuality is an abnormality, and very rare, less than 2% of people in the general population, and, right or wrong, most normal people find it disgusting.
By your own description it’s not straight people who have a problem but rather self loathing closet gays. Most of us live in a “don’t ask don’t tell” world. For the most part no one cares.
99.999% of the people I interact with in a day don't know my sexual preference, nor I their's. The 1 in 10000 that do know, don't care. Why? Because I don't march down a street feeling pride about something I had no control over. Most people, even if they don't approve, are decent enough to keep their opinions to themselves.
So, unless you're wearing it on your sleeve hardly anyone knows you're gay.
But, if any fraction of that care enough to confront you negatively, punch them in balls then go eat a hotdog--- literally, figuratively or metaphorically-- your body, your choice.
I’m 67, “straight”, had a few gay experiences in my life, one with one of my best friends who’s now dead, we had some great times back in the coke days, got hard as crowbars and ducked and sucked for hours when we hooked up, my problem now is not with gays it’s with the trans crowd. Every time you turn around they’re throwing it in your face, from drag queen stuff, to teaching young kids, do doing things behind parents backs, yelling, screaming,, etc,,