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Don't think a hand job is cheating
My husband recently went away in business for three weeks. Not usual.
While alone, I asked a male friend to come over and hang out with me one night. We used to work together and have been friends for years.
After dinner, I offered to give my friend a hand job. I thought it sounded like fun, and I hadn't seen his penis since I married my husband.
So we went to the couch, I undid his pants and jerked him off. It was very fun. After that we cleaned up and watched a movie and he went home.
I don't understand how that could possibly be cheating, as my husband says. We were both fully clothes, he never went inside me at all and we never even kissed. I don't see how it's any different from a shoulder rub
Any yes, I would if my husband ONLY got a hand job.
Isn't he being a little puritanical and overreacting?
As a husband I’d be more mad if he was just spraying his jizz all over my house my wife knows better she would swallow every drop I think it’s super hot she is actually gone for the weekend at a music festival I let her leave with 3 guys they weren’t more than five min down the road before she sent me pic of her sucking one of their dicks she’s having fun
Sexual gratification, either for you or another person, with someone other than your spouse is cheating.
Bj isn’t sex???? A bj is oral SEX! Of course I wouldn’t care if you fucked him if you were my wife
For those of you that think sucking dick is like shaking hands, are any of you in Orlando Florida?
What did you both agree before ‘hand’. Did you break expectations, sounds like he thinks you did. So you probably did.
As a husband, I wouldn’t have an issue with it. I’m fact it would turn me on… but if hubby isn’t ok with or aware of it happening, it was definitely cheating.
My wife related to me early on how one of her friends was having problems with his marriage, his wife moving out and at work. He was really down. She said he was very sad and disclosed that he had not even fucked his wife in several years but wanted her back. It was at this point that she told him to lay on the couch and she gave him the best hand job and BJ of his life. We were engaged but not married at this time. When I asked if he had a condom on she looked at me weird. I asked if he came in her mouth and she said “Yes, of course he did.” He was not allowed to touch her while she serviced his cock. She felt it was similar yo masturbation. She related how his thoughts were more clear and she told him it was a one time thing. She also told me that she saw giving a guy a BJ, was not like they were French kissing. I had to think about that response for a while. Especially since she felt it was more like a message. I asked how long did his BJ take “I don’t know 15 - 20 minutes.” She told me it worked, as they got back together and are still together today. Even now, she still does not see a BJ as particularly sexual and feels a hand job always leads to a BJ but “… not in a sexual way).
Well if your husband finger banging a girl ain't cheating then it's all good
Find another woman to give him a hand job while you are not there. If after that happens and you are fine with it, then it's not cheating
I've been married 20+ years to the same man and we both agree that giving or receiving a 'handjob' or a blow job is not cheating.
Now, I challenge the person making the above comment.
Why don't YOU find another woman to give your husband a 'handjob' and see what happens to your sex life!
Who cares if it is cheating, stroke away.
So he didn't touch you at all?
If my mates wife gave me a hand job and my wife or he found out shit would happen.
Cheating in a relationship is really what the people in a relationship AGREE it is. I would seek out approval BEFORE the act rather than after! Even intercourse in a relationship isn’t cheating if the relationship is agreed to be “open”
Would you give your dad a hand job? Probably not... It's not the same as a back rub. It's intimate and without your husband's approval is cheating.
Well put
Female 48 years old.
For goodness sake!
A hand job or oral is not cheating!
I've given numerous hand jobs and oral to former bosses and male co-workers over the years. My husband is aware. I never had sex with any of them and I always came home to my husband.
Live life people!
Same with us! For me giving a blow job is like shaking hands, and hubby has always known this about me! I've sucked countless men, friends, co-workers, bosses, strangers, pretty much anyone who asks.
I think it has to do with generational gaps too, I definitely wouldn't see this as an issue in my relationship either. There is boundaries and that's what matters.
A blow job isn't sex?
What if I licked your cunt is that not sex?
My husband and I have had a long standing agreement.
Sex is defined as:
The penis entering the vagina. Condom or no condom. The penis must penetrate the vagina for it to be sex.
The tip can rub the entrance or massage outside up and down but not enter.
Agree with you on this. For me, I would not mind if my wife had a handjob. It's not oral or penetration. I would like having an occasional handjob from another woman personally - I just like variety and new experiences.
No you grabbed another d@ck, technically cheating. But good for you, should have just had him go all the way maybe next time!