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Cheating and Affairs
If you have been cheated on, how did you find out and did you care or not?
My ex wife and I had a difficult and just overall bad relationship. There were of course some good times too. Just not that many. And perhaps more importantly the good times we did have were not that memorable. She was fit and attractive in a Midwest wife. She had really great natural tits. Only thing I miss about her because they were great as I said.
Eight years into our marriage my ex wife called me into the bedroom one day and said “I’m seeing someone and I’m not going to stop until you fix yourself.” Just like that. She might as well have been asking me to get a box down from the closet.
I know I should have been upset, but I wasn’t. I didn’t ask a single question about her affair. I wasn’t curious about a single aspect of her affair or her new bf. Which looking back seems rather odd. I mean I should have been. Even a little. Right?
My ex had expert level ability to make her issues everyone else’s; “Master if Manipulation” I called her. So her affair was my fault because I was broken. As I wrote that, something just seems off about that statement to me.
After she told me she was seeing someone and I had no reaction she started throwing it in my face. Which I don’t necessarily blame her for. Over the next next few weeks she was flat out overt in her new relationship. Talking to him in front of me saying things like “I can’t wait to see you tonight”, “last night was amazing” and so on. She started dressing up for their dates. She’d wear very sexy outfits which was an improvement over her sweats and T-shirt look I had gotten. She was coming home late from her dates and some nights she’d leave a surprise in my sink for me to find in the morning. Her used panties.
I left within a couple of months of her telling me she was seeing someone and telling me it was my problem.
Besides my initial question, did you care when you found out or were told your SO was cheating, what does this say about me?
I feel that I didn’t react or care because of how bad our relationship was and I was over it.
In our 20s i discovered that my GF had slept with a few guys over a 3 year period when I travelled a lot with work. It was 2 years before I found out. It became a big turn on for us both - we've been together ever since
Yeah - 20 yrs into marriage - we married as teens, her 18 me 19. 4 kids.
She took me onto the back porch one night - said she wasn't sure she wanted to be married to me any longer. I needed to go live somewhere else while she made up her mind.
Back story: she'd been attending classes for 2 yrs at a local community college.
"No, there's no one else - it's just YOU. Don't think I want to be married to you any longer.....but give me space to think about it."
I moved out...hoping to save the marriage - "don't make her mad", don't give her any more ammunition to hate me was my #1 goal!
Brother asked me the question......."No, she doesn't have a boy friend. She says it's just me." I said.
OF COURSE she had a lover! He was 12 years younger than her - fellow classmate. They'd been flirting for a year. I found this out when I read a Xmas card on her dining rm table when I was piking up our kids. Sent by a distant girl friend of hers, "Greg sounds like a wonderful guy - I guess you're going to have to make some hard decisions about your husband."
He broke up with her somehow - a mystery still to me today - 30 yrs later.but she quickly found other lovers. Had an abortion. Then another pregnancy. After living in a veteran's homeless shelter, and then with my aged grandpa for 18 mos. (Not enough $ to pay her rent and one for me.) She finally gave me a divorce. she got everything - but I got the 4 kids, aged 6,8,12, & 15.
I was nearly crazy when I found myself living in a shelter - after years of a family of 6. Suicidal....but couldn't do that to my kids.
No woman leaves a 20 yr marriage without a lover in the wings! Never happens! She just wanted to see if she was still attractive to men - and nothing I could do proved to her she was. Turned out she had multiple affairs during our marriage.
I'm OK now - happily remarried to a wonderful and very sexy woman - for 25 yrs! But was in "survival" mode for probably 3-4 yrs at that time.
My wife found out I was cheating on her and she was upset. I told her if she didn't like it then tough shit. If she had taken better care of herself I wouldn't be fucking other people. Now when I go out to fuck someone I show her their picture as I am leaving so she can see what a better piece of pussy I am getting.
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