Am I The Only Woman Who is "Numb"?

So I'm 21 years old, Female, and in college. I have never experienced anything pleasurable from my vagina. I noticed this the first time I had sex, which was with another girl (we were both 16 at the time). She tried fingering me and rubbing my clit, but I didn't feel anything. To put this into perspective, I was horny because she was touching me, but the feeling was as if someone was rubbing my wrist. I ended up faking an orgasm because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Unfortunately, this was only a one-time thing (even though we were both friends at the time, and I'm pretty sure we were into one another).

Skipping a few years into the future, after a couple dead-end hook-ups, I'm 20 and I'm in a relationship with my first boyfriend. He wanted to have sex about a month into the relationship. I was hesitant to do this because he was pushy and I didn't want to fake my orgasm. But I end up being persuaded, and things became steamy. He went down on me and I felt nothing at all. Then he put it in, and I still felt nothing. After a few times of having sex with him, he caught on that I didn't seem to like it at all. We broke up because he got the wrong impression, and assumed I wasn't into him.

I currently have another boyfriend, and I WANT him. I want to have sex with him, and I'm trying to figure out how I can make myself feel even a smidge good. I recently found out that really intense vibrators work, but only on my clit. And anal sex is on the plate, but I don't know where to start, or how to do it without it hurting (which would honestly just add another complication). We're long-distance right now, but I visit him July 29th for his birthday.

Looking for advice... Preferably from women with similar issues.

3 months ago


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    • Spend enough tome in foreplay before sex with your bf . But meanwhile, have tried some vibrator/flexible dildo to masturbate while stroking your clit and nips? Try...

    • Let the man lick your clit for as long as it takes until you cum, otherwise if that doesn't work just use the vibrator for at least you know that you can cum with it. Use what works and don't worry about what doesn't work. Anyway you can have an orgasm is fine, there is no normal. As for vaginal sex, most all women don't orgasm this way and only orgasm if their clit is pleasured and all women know this. I skipped anal sex, never did it, don't want to, and I am happy with my choice.

    • It sounds like you may need some therapy. I was with a woman in a similar situation. She said she never felt anything in her vagina. At first I thought it was a lie or cop out to get out of sex with me but it was a legitimate problem. She started seeing a therapist for a little while and found out it was psychosomatic. Once she worked through some issues she was able to enjoy sex and have orgasms. Good luck honey!❤️

    • Send me a picture of your pussy and ass maybe you need some coaching.

    • It's people like you who make it hard for us real coaches to reach people who need actual help. You're a sad creature.

    • It's people like you who make us real coaches struggle reaching people who need real help. You're a sad creature

    • I would like to help. Not joking or implying anything. I honestly can help you with advice. Are there any ways go contact you?

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