Am I The Only Woman Who is "Numb"?
So I'm 21 years old, Female, and in college. I have never experienced anything pleasurable from my vagina. I noticed this the first time I had sex, which was with another girl (we were both 16 at the time). She tried fingering me and rubbing my clit, but I didn't feel anything. To put this into perspective, I was horny because she was touching me, but the feeling was as if someone was rubbing my wrist. I ended up faking an orgasm because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Unfortunately, this was only a one-time thing (even though we were both friends at the time, and I'm pretty sure we were into one another).
Skipping a few years into the future, after a couple dead-end hook-ups, I'm 20 and I'm in a relationship with my first boyfriend. He wanted to have sex about a month into the relationship. I was hesitant to do this because he was pushy and I didn't want to fake my orgasm. But I end up being persuaded, and things became steamy. He went down on me and I felt nothing at all. Then he put it in, and I still felt nothing. After a few times of having sex with him, he caught on that I didn't seem to like it at all. We broke up because he got the wrong impression, and assumed I wasn't into him.
I currently have another boyfriend, and I WANT him. I want to have sex with him, and I'm trying to figure out how I can make myself feel even a smidge good. I recently found out that really intense vibrators work, but only on my clit. And anal sex is on the plate, but I don't know where to start, or how to do it without it hurting (which would honestly just add another complication). We're long-distance right now, but I visit him July 29th for his birthday.
Looking for advice... Preferably from women with similar issues.