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Fire fighter cheating wife?
I left for some fire fighter training out of state in Alabama. My wife had previously letting my best friend another fire fighter get firskey with her when they thought I was not looking. I had asked her several times if there was anything going on between them she admitted there was some harmless feeling up and teasing especially when we are all drinking or out at the bar. While I was in Alabama at the last training event I had to return home early because of my job as director of EMS services in our county. I did not tell anyone that I was returning early and I did not catch my wife in a compromising position or anything. Wr have 3 kids at this time ages 10 through 4 the house was a normal wreck like it gets with young parents with a lot of kids. But my bedroom was unusually clean even the master bathroom was cleaned very well candles were out around the bathtub witch was not unusual in itself. There were no clothes in laundry hamper but there were 2 towels in bedroom in different spots. The toilet seat was up again not that unusual because of 2 boys in the house. But the most suspicious thing was thw next day the dogs has gotten into the trash outside and there was a used condom in the trash can. My wife and I do not use condoms. I confronted my wife about this and she told me that it was her that used it on a dildo while I was gone. But I think she had my best friend over while I was at my fire fighter training. What do you think?
How did you make out bro ?
Your best friend most likely had his fire hose up your wife's ass
Having read this thread and having experienced the scenario from the other side I posed two questions.
1) If you have accepted the fact that your best friend and your wife had an affair and you are still wanting to continue the relationship does it matter if she cheated?
She had a relationship outside of yours. I can almost guarantee that she had one outside of that as well. If she can't get what she needs she will find it.
2) If you want to stay can you accept what she has done and understand that until you make some changes in how things are dealt with she will not change?
She has now put herself before you and the children. She isn't concerned with the damage it's going to cause. She has some type of issue with needing fulfillment. If you want to make it work find it. Good luck
2) no I cannot accept the current situation I will not be an embarrassment to my family by being some pussy that just accepts my wife's infidelity and turns the other cheek. Like I said I love her but do not trust her but I hope that one day that trust will return. As far as my broken heart so to speak. Time heal I know this for sure wether by acceptance or forgetting. But I do know that I will be on the loosing end to just cut ties. I mean can you honestly say you could walk away from someone you have spent more than half your life with and a friend you have had since you were very young or would you be able to just turn away from your children. because if you turn from the marriage your wife could possibly keep at least 2 of the most important part of you and allow them to forget about you over time. Remember 2 of my children are my DNA but 2 are not. I want to be there Father for the rest of my life. I have a Difficult decision to be made. But I will not make it while I am angry
1) yes I have accepted the fact that they had affair I am not sure that I do want to continue relationship I do have a lot of time invested in this relationship as does she. It hurts that she and my best friend had an affair I think it would be one thing for it to be a single event or even a drunken mistake. But there relationship had been going on for years right under my nose and I was even rasing one of his children as my own and not even knowing. My wife kept that piece of information from my friend and myself and that in itself is inexcusable on her part. Bit I still love my daughter and the fact that I did not provide the sperm that she was made from is not even an issue. She is my daughter I love her and I always will. She had devolped into the child that she is today through me and being there for a child as a father is way more important than being the person that produced the sperm for conception. So my answer to your first question is a difficult one when it's not just about how it will affect me and my feelings but more about how it will affect 6 people's lives it's is a horrible thing to go through but then again it's just sex. I love my wife but I don't trust her any more.
Yes she cheated she finally confessed and they had been having the affair for 7 years. Here is the real kick in the stomache. One of my sons is not mine and she says he is not my best friends either. But one of my daughters is his. She wont give me any other info because she says it wont help it will just make things worse.......now what????
Damn! Sorry to hear that, what did she say?? Why she cheat on you like that?? Are you divorcing? Who’s son is it?? This woman is poisen in my opinion
She told me that I was working too much and not meeting her needs. She still will not tell me who my son belongs too. Yes I said my son he will always be my son even if he did not come from me. I raised him I love him unconditionally. He will always be my son. But we are not talking about divorce right now we are working through this. I have no idea how to tell my son but one day he will need to know the truth but I am not sure if he will be angry with me for not revealing the truth to him when I found out. I just dont know what to do there but my son does have the right to know I am not his biological father. Doesn't he? I am so lost at that question. My daughter already knows but thats only because she overheard me and my wife argument over her. She has been confused for a while about it now and does not want to talk about it with us so I am getting her counseling. Hopefully Thats the right choice. I have a long time with this woman and do not know any other way of life other than to be her husband and kids father and take care of them and provide for them. But dam every time I close my eyes this is all I see I dont know if the pain will ever go away. She has agreed to quit seeing my friend. She went over to his house last Friday after I got home from work and they had a long talk and agreed that it was over. I dont want to see my best friend right now I can understand accidents happen but not over and over again across the years. The only thing I do know right now is that I love my kids and even with my wife infidelity I still love her. I have alot of questions that she wont answer and i am not sure how to fell about that. And I dont think she is telling me everything right now. Will i ever learn all the answers to my questions...or should I say do I want to know the answers to all my questions. Because I want details
How did you confront your friend about it??
I have not confronted him I dont want to see him .
Bro have you find out if she cheated??
Don’t be stupid. Get some cameras and proof. She’s fucking him.
“Don’t be stupid.”
Why? You don’t like competition?
How did it go for you?? Did she cheat??
I am not sure she has cheated on me but my gut and my heart say she did. I found a several photos and a few videos on her phone when I was using it. Of her naked and playing with herself and showing everything. When I asked her about it she said she took them for me so she could send them to me next time I was out of town so I dont get lonely. she was upset with me for snooping in her phone and ruining her surprise to me. But I am not sure thats right because the dates on the photos were from the week I was gone
Yes she did it. Give a wife a chance to cheat and she will every time
She did it and you know it. Next time you leave set up some hidden cameras and get the proof.
Sweetie I can honestly tell you she’s cheating on you for sure. My hubby travels for work, so he’s I’ve invited friends over, cleaned the house before they came over too. I’ve used condoms with them until I was sure they were clean or were not going to make a deposit without my approval. And yes the raccoons ripped open the garbage and hubby found the condoms. But then I went on the pill and hubby got a ring camera. Now I go to yoga class😉😉
So how do I get her to tell me the truth I have asked her several times but never out right accused her of cheating. I just think I have the right to know. But she seems to think she has the right to her own privacy when it comes to her masterbation. Witch I can see that everyone deserves some privacy but its not her masterbation activities I am asking about. I am just unsure how to go about this or just let it go.
Just like the comment above, hidden cameras with WiFi access
Condom on a dildo? Riiiiiiiight
I have used condoms on a dildo to enjoy a quick and easy clean up after anal penetration.
You should set hidden CCTV cameras in the house
Where there's smoke...there's fire.
I dont know I did not examine it that closley. I do not remember the last tine we even had condoms in the house. We never really used them there was always alternative birth control methods. And now I have a vasectomy so we dont need them for sure
Did the condom have semen in it or not?