How to bring it up?
I'm a married woman, 40s. I'm very happy with my husband, and while he keeps me satisfied in bed, there's something I've been missing for a long time.
When I was younger, I was very liberal, sexually speaking. I experimented a lot with my body and sexuality, and early on I discovered I was driven crazy from having multiple sexual partners... usually more than one at the same time. I was about 20 when I had the most powerful orgasm I've ever experienced, from being made love to by two friends at the same time (simultaneous vaginal and anal intercourse). It was ground-shattering, the kind of orgasm that left me shaking and moaning uncontrollably. I experienced several of those back in the day.
When I met my husband and married him, I settled and kept my sexual past to myself, out of fear of being judged or even dumped, because even to this day, us women are harshly judged because of our sex lives. But I do want to experience that again, and I'm afraid of what he could say or how he could react.
And it's not like my husband's a misogynistic conservative or anything. He's a fantastic lover, in fact, just a little bit conventional and resistant to new ideas. But the truth is, he alone will never be able to make me orgasm like that. I just fear that, if I propose a threesome to him, it could hurt his self-esteem, or something worse. I've been thinking that, to ease him in, it might be wise to have him use toys on me (a dildo in my ass while he penetrates me vaginally might be a good substitute in the meantime). Any other ideas?