How to bring it up?

I'm a married woman, 40s. I'm very happy with my husband, and while he keeps me satisfied in bed, there's something I've been missing for a long time.
When I was younger, I was very liberal, sexually speaking. I experimented a lot with my body and sexuality, and early on I discovered I was driven crazy from having multiple sexual partners... usually more than one at the same time. I was about 20 when I had the most powerful orgasm I've ever experienced, from being made love to by two friends at the same time (simultaneous vaginal and anal intercourse). It was ground-shattering, the kind of orgasm that left me shaking and moaning uncontrollably. I experienced several of those back in the day.
When I met my husband and married him, I settled and kept my sexual past to myself, out of fear of being judged or even dumped, because even to this day, us women are harshly judged because of our sex lives. But I do want to experience that again, and I'm afraid of what he could say or how he could react.
And it's not like my husband's a misogynistic conservative or anything. He's a fantastic lover, in fact, just a little bit conventional and resistant to new ideas. But the truth is, he alone will never be able to make me orgasm like that. I just fear that, if I propose a threesome to him, it could hurt his self-esteem, or something worse. I've been thinking that, to ease him in, it might be wise to have him use toys on me (a dildo in my ass while he penetrates me vaginally might be a good substitute in the meantime). Any other ideas?


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  • Do the dildo and cock thing, let him fuck your ass and you can use the dildo in your pussy. Being a guy that’s married, having another guy fucking your girl just isn’t cool, unless it’s his idea, or set something up while he is out of town so he won’t know.
    What he doesn’t know won’t hurt him

  • My wife comes from a very conservative culture. I really thing that it would ruin our marriage if we had a threesome. But I'd be open to it.

    She gets totally hot if I narrate a threesome fantasy while we have sex. But it can only be a fantasy with her. No way in real life. Too bad. She's missing out on what could be a lot of fun.

    You sound like a fun wife.

  • Swing that way you get something and so does he

  • My wife had been hinting at wanting a more open marriage for years. She would watch TV shows dealing with polygamy and ask me what I thought about it. I'd respond with, "IDK if I have the strength to deal with two women at once."
    Then one day she asked me again. I said the same thing. She said, "Well I didn't mean another wife. I meant me with another husband." I said, "You not happy with me?" She said, "Nothing like that. Just that you are gone for work for up to 3 weeks at a time." (I work on an oil rig.) I said, "So you'd want someone to keep from being lonely while I'm gone?" She said, "Exactly." I said, "What about one of your friends?" She said, "I'm not a lesbian." I said, "So you are wanting sex then?" She said, "Well yeah." I said, "How often would you be thinking?" She said, "You really want to know?" I said, "Yes. You're serious about this right?" She said, "Well as little as once a week. As much as once a day." I said, "So daily?" She said, "You know how horny I get sometimes." I said, "What about when I'm home?" She said, "I'd never deny you sex and I'm open to the idea of a threesome." I said, "Well, assuming you find a guy and explain the situation and he's open to the idea to sex with the both of us, I'm ok with it." This is where she was shocked. She said, "Sex with the both of us?" I said, "Well yeah. If we have a threesome I'm gonna want to suck his dick and some anal action." Long story short, she's had a second husband for about a year and a half now.

  • Watch some porn about threesomes see how he reacts. Tell him that turns you on watching it. Buy some toys like u said a dildo in your ass and him in your pussy. Maybe role play pretend him and his friend get u drunk and fuck u. Watch some cockoid. Ask him if that would turn him on seeing you get fucked by another man. I was watching porn with my girlfriend and she said that turns me on being with another male while I watched. But don’t tell him about your pass.

  • Tell him you feel. Some guys would love to tag team their wife with another guy. Others might do it, if there is something more in it for them, like you bringing in some new pussy for him to screw. Find common ground, and let us know what happened.

  • And this, gentlemen, is why you should never marry a woman with "lots of experience". 😐

  • Why? They are the best.

  • Anyone with a lot of experience ends up settling down and having bad thoughts eventually

  • Start by having a 3some with another woman . When he sees you licking her pussy and asshole his cock will be so hard that he will be open to anything including you getting fucked by another big cock.

  • I agree. Give him another woman and pleasure him then ask if you can get the same treatment

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