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I never have had an orgasm
I am married and have been with my husband for nearly 20 years. He always has been a premature ejaculator. Sex can be over in 1-2 minutes. EVERY time.
I get all turned on by great foreplay and get the need to have hot raunchy sex. But he is done so quickly. Yesterday I went and bought a vibrator. One that looks pretty cool. It has a huge cock head, and has beads that rotate. It has a clitoris tickler. And the size of this thing is OMG. On my way home from the shop, I really wanted to pull over and rip it out of the box. I really need to orgasm so bad.
I waited until last night when I was alone, and had a play with all the settings for about an hour. I was so excited thinking I was finally going to reach orgasm. But no.
What can I do? Or is there something wrong with me? Are some people just not able to orgasm? I have heard that some women actually can squirt during an orgasm, and I really want that!
Buy a Hitachi Wand, the kind that plugs in, not the battery kind. Don’t buy a knock-off, buy the real thing. Press the bulbous head of the thing right over your clit and turn it on. It wouldn’t hurt to read some erotica or look at sexual imagery you like for a half-hour or do before you use the wand.
I have had experience with women with the same problem. All they needed was a complete adventure with a stranger. I have a friend who refers me out to women. She is a doctor and relative. This works. I have been with women who never had an orgasm and were so discussed that they just gave up. Give that pussy up to a stranger. A stranger will most likely be as excited as you. Go for it!!! If I knew of you, I bet after a little while you would be gushing. See that would make me happy too. I just want to help. There is nothing worse than a woman who can't enjoy all that her emotions and body has to offer. Get with me.
I do not understand guys like this. When we were trying for kids my wife used to be like your husband, she would stick a thermometer up her pussy and declare: "Let's go big boy I am at my most fertile point." Well I would want suck her nipples, eat her out, rim her, get her to blow me and all that lovely foreplay stuff. But NO the thermometer never lies and we now got three beautiful girls from that thermometer but now we are back to 95% foreplay 5% copulation. MAGIC.
I can help you with that
My wife and I got together late in life, she had been divorced for about a year or so when we met. She had not had sex with anyone in her life except her ex-husband, the first time we had sex I pleasured her for a long time and she had two orgasms. After the first long screaming orgasm she looked down at me and told me Oh my god, I have been missing that for 17 years? She had never really played with herself and her ex was like yours missionary and no oral sex. She told me she had never even given him a blow job, she knew what they were but he did not let her do it.
My girlfriend squirts almost every time she orgasms and that happens several times when we have sex to the point where we have to used pads in order not to ruin our bed. Sometimes she can squirt by just looking at me or thinking about sex. I strongly believe that the brain is the most powerful sexual organ.
The main issue is that you're not in tune with your own body. If you can't reach orgasm by yourself you won't with your partner.
I would say for both you and your husband go see a sex therapist, separately, or together. I think both are mental issues (not saying you're mentally ill) but i think it'd be highly beneficial