I crave inappropriate male attention. I don't know how to stop.

I'll just preface this by saying: I've been with my fiancé for about six years, and I have never once cheated on him. When I go out, I've never danced with/hugged/held hands with/kissed/slept with another guy in the past 6 years, 5 of which were extreme long distance in our relationship.

The issue is, I love male attention. To the point where I think it might be a problem. When I go out, I dress a little daringly I'll admit, because I know it will get me attention. I don't actively try to flirt with other men, but my friends tell me they see it all the time. I honestly don't realize when I'm doing it and I'm always embarrassed/ashamed afterward. But if a man starts talking to me, I tend to giggle a lot, I get super friendly, I think I hold eye-gazes and smiles too long...and I know a lot of times, I've sent the wrong message and had to eventually reject them once they made a move.

Guy friends, co-workers, random guys at clubs, it doesn't matter who it is, I seem to just naturally flirt with them and get a little kick out of getting their attention focused on me. I don't like rejecting people at all, but I like knowing they're interested and I must play that up a lot for people to notice.

Lately I've noticed myself doing it with one of my friend's boyfriends. I like him, but NOT in that way, and I have no interest in dating him or sleeping with him, but I've caught myself unintentionally flirting with him lately and I have no idea why.

I don't know why I do this or why I'm so obsessed with getting attention from guys. My relationship at the moment is very happy and loving and I just don't get it. I've been doing this since I was about 13 - back then I used to dress really provocatively and try to see if I could get much older men (25-40) interested in me.

If you want to get psychological maybe it could be lots of things - having a Dad who doesn't really care about me, sexual abuse, being in a long distance relationship for years where I didn't see my boyfriend or get male attention for months at a time...or just being a horrible person. I'm not really sure what the cause is.

Does anybody else know where I'm coming from or how I can stop this? I don't want to break up anybody else's relationship. I don't want to ruin my own. I love my boyfriend; I've never cheated and never been interested in cheating. For some reason the attention and flirting just feels nice. But I know if he knew, he'd be really hurt. I need to get control of myself!

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