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Improper cravings
The context: I've been married 10 years, my husband and I are both 30. We were high school sweethearts. Our relationship is pretty good, but boring. When we were in our teens and early 20's, we talked a lot, had sex a lot, and things were good. After a decade of marriage, well, things are kinda "blah." We still love each other though. He only wants sex maybe once a week at most, and it's still pretty good when we have it, but I'm craving a lot more both emotionally and physically.
The emotional: I have a pretty major crush on a guy at work. We're friends and go out to lunch and have drinks after work frequently. His mind is amazing, and we share far more interests than I share with my husband. That's hot, imo. Intellect is sexy. I love talking to him; I feel whole around him. He's also quite handsome. We've never done anything physically improper, not even a kiss, as we're both married, but I know he's attracted to me too. The only bad thing we've done is talk about sex a lot. Some of our conversations about sex have been downright filthy in detail. That's bad, I know.
The biological: there is also the issue of my own biology. For whatever reason, when I turned 28 or thereabouts my sex drive went crazy high. It was never like this when I was younger. I've always liked sex, but in the last couple of years I want it all of the time. I'm always feeling randy and ready to fuck at any time. I can't even be near a random guy on the bus and smell his cologne without my nipples hardening and getting as wet as a rain forest. There is also my work friend: oh, I'd love to fuck him, no doubt. I would love call in sick to work, meet up with him at a hotel, and fuck each other silly for 8 hours, until we have to go back home. I think about that a lot.
The issue of scruples: I can feel myself twirling uncontrollably towards having an affair. The dynamics are just right. It's a perfect storm. Emotionally and physically, I want sex with a man who is not my husband. I've never been with another guy, and feel like I missed out or something when I was younger. I'm trying to get over it and keep my scruples. I think maybe I need marriage counseling or something, but my marriage isn't bad. I just want more. Something different, hot and exciting. Something naughty. I don't think counseling can give me that.
You need to find religion, sweetie.