Husband opinions please

I'll take care of you

Baloney. Women don't actually want men. Women don't crave men. Women would rather not have sex and let their husbands masturbate. Most marriages fail because the woman doesn't want sexual intimacy anymore. You women claim to want a manly man but you don't let him be a man. You treat him like a pansy and wonder why he is not a big burly man. You chop off his balls at any attempt to be a sexy man for you and wonder why he doesn't carry you off into bed and give you orgasms that feel like heaven raining down on you. You women are to blame

I have been in forced celibacy for just over 9 years now

That's a million dollar question. However, I guess I'm built differently. I would rather please my wife and have sex with her, rather than masturbate. But, menopause has definitely took a toll on her sex drive. Therefore, I now lay back, completely naked and ask her to watch me rub one out. This is much better than stroking to porn, at least in my opinion.

Wish my husband was like you. I would love to have my husband lay back while I put on porn usually beastiality its what turns us both on use my vibrator on the lowest setting place it on his shaft while I lick and suck the shiny hard head till it cums in my mouth. I love warm cum in my mouth but He gets upset and rather masturbate alone to porn. He says im gross for wanting those things

You are a man. No woman ever craves a man's cock. It's always a chore that they have to get it over with.

Cum visit me , you sound like a amazing woman ! Mine won't put a cock in her mouth , plenty of warm cum for you .

Mmmmmm wish we could hook up babe u have got me so stiff mmmmmmm

My hand feels better than my wifes used, stretched out, stinky pussy

Get you some toys. Or somebody else that drills u through out the week and by the time monday comes you can shoot him a (not tonight im tired expression)

If I had a dollar for every time I came home from the store or work and saw my husband with his pants around his ankles stroking one out, I'd be a millionaire. Even if sex with you is great, he still likes variety. He likes pussy a lot, and not just yours.

You should do the same or get a real man to fuck you when you want it. My husband does the same thing. All he wants to do is Jack off so I let him. As soon as he leaves for work I go out hunting for a man to give me what I need. Nothing better than getting fucked whenever I want it. Jack off to that hubby!!

He probably does.

Oh god he's a freak!

OP Update. So i took some advice off you, I dressed up really sexy last Night, (friday) after a day of little touches and kisses which he seemed to really like and I could tell he was worked up. Anyway, walked in and he said i looked fucking hot. Crawled across the bed, went to undo his fly and he started saying not tonight love. I ignored him and kept kissing his dick through his jeans, he was hard then he leaped up and said "Monday" I said tonight. He hot really funny and walked out. I followed him yelling that why Monday and why not now. He said cos it's best on a Monday -I spent the night on the sofa.

Im sorry for you. My wife quit sex altogether. Should have left her years ago. It causes all kinds of issues.

What a fucking ballsack

I'm so sorry he's a douche

It sounds like he's bored. Not uncommon in a marriage. Find out what he's looking at online and tease him a little. My husband is into women's feet, which I have no idea what the attraction there is. However, when I caught him looking at it, I came right out and asked him what's the turn on?
He said he's always been into women's feet and always wanted foot sex but was embarrassed to ask. Now he worships my feet and it broke our dull married sex life.

Bored? He got hard from her....

Hes making it boring for himself. By only doing it on a Monday

I've read all the comments and I think it's appalling how your husband shuns you because it's not a Monday

Constant rejection causes psychological issues.

Deny him sex every Monday.

It's all in the mind. I have not had an orgasm for years. My wife totally controls sex. We kiss and touch but no orgasm for me for moral and religious reasons.

Jesus, dude. you got suckered into a bunch of bullshit.

Men need to wank, because its your own personal treat its your own private pleasure, you understand your own dick better than anybody, as to how it should be played with, men like to bring there own sperm to see it coming out of the end of your dick, its the satisfaction of doing it for yourself, its the best toy a man ever had

When my wife catches me watching porn she drops to her knees and blows me. Try doing that!

Yeah again op stated he refuses that. Read the comments People!

Your husband is plain weird!!!! Whatever happened to spontaneity? Rejection sucks, I used to feel so worthless begging for sex with my ex. Shattered my self esteem and then I met my now husband who treats me like a goddess. Soz hunny X

Sounds like my situation in reverse! Wife won’t do it at all, I’m ready all the time!

Same!

Same

To all the men who say, you're ugly, you're fat, do you shower, do you dress good -
So to be a woman we have to be showered, have make up on, have well groomed hair, dress sexy- but not too sexy because that's not smart, should be available at all times and suck and swallow, we're not to expect phenomenal sex as that's too tiring, but ladies need to be creative and do more stuff, like riding a dick up their ass to please you, and don't expect attention unless he's willing to give.
Yet, he comes home from work, we're expected to put a sweaty dick in our mouth, then you get to laze in your 3 day old unwashed grey trackies. You expect us to swallow your sperm when the majority of you don't know how to get a clit to orgasm. You think it's a button you can jab. Then you get to show us no affection until you want to get your dick wet again.

Yeah.... I understand.
I understand why women go elsewhere.

It doesn't matter if my hair is in a messy bun and my last shower was the night before, with pjs on -I still deserve a kiss on the cheek and an I love you.

Maybe I'm just the lucky dude here, but my wife gets that from me and I get fucked all the time. It's like the world's best aphrodisiac just being a good husband. That being said, I still jack off once in awhile.

Sounds perfect, I replied above

Too true! See this is what I'm talking bout

Amen 🙌

This is spot on!

I shower my wife with love and attention. Women deserve it, that's how I was raised?

Guys stop being
jerks this is why women think the majority of men suck . - it's because of asseholes like you.

Sounds to me that your husband is a lazy lover

I'm a dude an I agree with dis 110 per cent!

Love how the men always blame the women and twist things. I have a high sex drive, I do oral/swallowing, anal, bondage, cnc, toys basically anything. Ill fuck any time of the day.MY HUSBAND KNOWS THIS. I'm clean, I don't drink I don't smoke, I look and dress good. My husband wants sex every Monday as television is more important to him. But he'll masturbate daily. Hes not cheating, he doesn't even go out. Hes a couch potato. I'm not the problem. He is.

Lol, defensive much. Maybe he's just not that into you. How could that possibly be because you're such a catch and into everything ! Duh ! Until you take a real better look at yourself, you're always going to be blaming everyone else.

If that's the case he wouldn't want sex at all. But OP states that he wants her every Monday and when they do it it's brilliant. You can clearly see that this is all the husbands doing with the obsession with a Monday. Maybe you need to read comments before trolling.

Ill marry you!

I masturbate because my wife doesn't want sex. She used to enjoy it but now, nothing. I masturbate a lot because I'm very horny and frustrated but I don't think I would cheat.

Now, when we were having sex I would masturbate as well. there is something so satisfying about getting yourself off, maybe because my wife is tame and not terribly enthusiastic about sex. She's childlike about sex almost and that's frustrating. When we met and dated she wasn't like that.

Now it's as if I don't have a clue how to get her interested or turned on and I just take care of myself. It was going that way anyway as she really wasn't into anything kinky or experimental at all. missionary, no talking about sex, Never taking charge of her needs, etc....

yeah I know. I married her.

I'm thinking about sucking dicks now

It's fucking hard isn't it

Sure is. I've always been there for her, support, affection, still am. I just really want sex and I don't want to be a shitty person.

I totally get you.

Not to mention that I work myself ragged. a little bit of fun and love is what restores us. It's why people stay together. without it it's just occupying the same space. She texted me and asked me what I was up to. I said masturbating and sent a kinky gif, not too hardcore, just playful. She asked me not to send her porn on her phone. no mention of sex whatsoever, no playful interest or clever/funny comment. Not that expected she should be turned on, just a little fun to be had. Wrong, no fun at all. I also tried to put my arm around her on a walk and she literally cringed away and made a disgusted face. Fuck Me.

He probably only comes to you for sex when he has the time and energy to give you all the foreplay and attention he feels you deserve. But sometimes a guy just needs to get off, and he doesn't want to put in all the extra effort to make sure you're pleased. A quick tug is guilt free release for most men, a quick shag can lead to guilt for not lasting longer.

If you want your man to involve you in the other times of the week he's coming, you need to make yourself available to use without guilt - which means that you need to make it abundantly clear to him that he can grab you any time of day and stick it in whatever hole he likes and just use you to get off without feeling guilty for it.

I do this. I've even woke him up dressed liked a whore and sucking his cock. He'll pull away and say he's starving for breakfast and that we will on Monday.

Hmm, there's something going on with him then. I'll masturbate from time to time when I don't really have the energy for sex, but when my wife starts blowing me out of the blue, it gets me in the mood anyways. I have to wonder if maybe he has something psychological going on that's causing him to need to control what day of the week the sex is on, or maybe he has some kind of embarrassing fantasy or something else about his sexuality that you don't know. What do you know about his sexual history, especially the first few girls he had sex with?

He said before he's slept with 9 women, then it went to 3.

I don't know why a Monday, it never used to be, it used to be anytime, any day. He's quite normal day to day, we laugh etc but sex is a Monday, and if something distrups that, like a friend calling over in the evening, or he doesn't feel like it, it'll roll over till the next Monday. Oh my God putting this all in writing embarrases me.

I've never met or seen pictures of any other women, but then we are from different town's. He dosent speak about his exes. Hell, I don't even know what his longest relationship is. He does tell me his fantasies and we act them out.

Well I would ask him more about his history. There might be some ideas there, and if not, at least it's a chance to know him better. Do you know what kind of porn he's looking at when he masturbates? That could be a big eye opener. Otherwise, it sounds like it could be related to aging as well. He could be spacing sex out to hide the fact that he can't perform like he used to (easier to get a rock hard erection when you're on a week with no sex) and masturbating in between so he can last longer for it (masturbating can be done even if you can't get totally hard.) There are a lot of possibilities here. But the important thing to remember, is this isn't embarrassing, especially not for you. He's changing and your relationship is changing, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. You just have to figure out what the problem is so you can help him through it. Or at least if you figure out that he can't be helped, you can discuss ways for you to be satisfied, because life is too short to waste it being frustrated.

We are in our early 30s so i can't see it being age related. The porn he watches his purely wives who cheat in front of husbands. No, I've never cheated and I do not share this fantasy. Planned sex is very mechanical for me, I can't just automatically be turned on on a Monday. Basically every thing in our life is great, except this one thing.

I'm similar to you in that way - can't get excited about sex if it's put on a schedule. You're right that he probably isn't experiencing physical problems, although I wouldn't totally rule it out. Like pattern baldness, different men experience it at different rates and times of life, and if he's early onset, it could be a driving force behind his fantasies. But, they could also just be the result of him leaving his 20s behind, understanding himself, and being able to admit what he really wants. Lots of guys are filled with bravado in their younger years and leave it behind as they get older and start coming to terms with who they really are. Has he ever mentioned wanting to see you with another guy, or wanting to have sex in front of others? I mean, there are two ways you can take the fact that hes into that kind of porn - either he wants to be the guy masturbating while his wife has sex with someone else, or he wants to be the guy having sex while the other husband masturbates. I mean, I guess he could want to be the wife, but that's fairly rare compared to the other two outcomes. From the sound of it, it sure does seem like he's pushing in the direction of being the cuckold - all the masturbating and almost intentionally being sexually boring. Would you even be OK with going in that direction if that's what he wanted?

He's mentioned in the past just before he's climaxed that seeing another man pound me would be a turn on, I didn't say anything because (I didn't know how to take it, it's not my thing to share) he come then it wasn't mentioned again.

If I were you, I would bring it up and see if it's something he would be interested in doing for real, or whether it's something he just wants to keep as a fantasy. Maybe both of you could get what you're after, and not need to break up or live a life devoid of sex. Lots of people are afraid to be the one to talk first, so maybe if you start, it will embolden him to be honest.

Saturday morning is my masturbation day, I Anken while my wife plays with my dick and nuts that hang out between my thighs she also squeezes my nipples and tickles my tummy after I have a nice cum we turn around and she masturbates by the same leg pressure method while I finger her bum and play with her tits, so good

How often do you shower and dress like a freaky slut then just do your thing around the house. Flash him tease him.

Tried every thing he'll just say we will on Monday.

My husband masturbates daily. He's always horny and I don't mind if he gets off to vids of other women, as long as he takes care of me too, which he does. You need to sit down and have a chat with your husband. I think his issue is less about masturbation and more about being a control freak. When you want to fuck, he needs to listen to you and give it to you on occasion, otherwise you are not equal partners in your marriage.

Daily self gratification via masterbation and then denying you sex is a form of cheating. He is cheating alright and piggishly selfish.

You mention it could be just "pure laziness" implying there could be a mismatch between you of what you find acceptable. If you're more demanding of attention than he is, he could find it easier just to get off on his own, without any arguments or judgements from you. The simple fact of the matter is, if your husband is going elsewhere to get his fun, then most of the time you aren't his idea of fun. You could blame him for this. Being lazy. How dare he not want you. But maybe it's something you're doing. Rather than just straight up demand or blame him for something, try asking him what he likes ?

Have you tried to initiate sex? Is he just totally insecure about it?