Son's behavior at home
I consider myself liberal minded to a point. I believe that sex is okay IF people are in love and in committed relationships, even if they are not married. I grew up in the late 80s early 90s and remember all the crazy stuff we used to do. I'm a mother in my 40s.
I have an 18 year old son who is attractive and athletic. He's dated girls for prom and things, but he has never had a steady girlfriend. Yet he's popular in school and has no problem making friends.
I came home from work early the other day and my son had a couple of girls over and they were having sex in our family room. I knew he didn't have a steady girlfriend so I was a little shocked to say the least. One of the girls was riding his penis while another was lowered on his mouth. When I showed up, they seemed as shocked by me as I was about them. I was almost shaking. I told them that I was going to leave to do some shopping and that they could finish up, but I also told my son that we were going to have a chat later.
When I came back an hour later the girls were gone and my son seemed really nervous. I asked if either of those girls were his steady girlfriend and he said no, they were just friends from school. I said I didn't like the idea of him having sex in our house, not to mention with two girls, but I appreciated that he used a condom and didn't do it in a park, a car, or somewhere else. I also said he shouldn't be having casual sex, but that I had to process that info a little more to come to an opinion. I'm still conflicted about that.
My husband almost shit when I told him about what happened, but we both agreed to try to keep an open mind. We told our son when he has people over like that to just text us, so we know he needs privacy. The thing is that I don't know if we should be providing a place for our son to get laid when the girls he is bringing over probably have parents who have no idea what their daughters are doing with our son. I don't even know if I should call them or what. People get edgy. Anyway, if there are any parents out there who have experience dealing with a situation like this and can offer advice, it would be appreciated.