Ramping it back
I'm 19 and have been best friends with my buddy Mike for about five years. We are basically like brothers. When I started dating my girlfriend Carmen, it cut into our buddy time, but he was accepting of the fact that I was in a relationship and happy for me. We've been doing more things together in recent months.
I've been dating Carmen for about 5 months. She's a little freaky, dyes her hair orange, wears skimpy skirts with tights, and is into tattoos and piercings. She also has a high level of kink, and we've been having threesomes with my friend Mike. She likes them. I don't tend to last too long, and Mike is a total animal in the sack. He totally loves screwing my woman. Together we are meeting her needs and then some. It's also fun to watch one another get off.
The thing is that it is getting out of control. Mike is literally coming over almost everyday to screw Carmen. He asks me each time, and I usually say "cool, we'll both bang her" but it's getting to be a little too often. I told Carmen that it's getting to be a little much, but she simply says things like "Mellow out, you are way overreacting."
I'm thankful to have both Mike and Carmen in my life. I love them both. But I hope to at least get the frequency of Mike's visits down to maybe once a week. However, I don't think I have full control over the situation anymore. I think both of them would be upset if I laid down the law. They might just start doing things without me. If anyone has been through a similar situation, I'd welcome some advice on a solution.