I never thought this would happen
A married couple who have been friends with my wife and I for ten years often went out together. We did all kinds of things as close friends. After an outing with them my wife was tense, not herself at all. I asked what was bothering her I knew she had a bug up her ass over something. You know what bothers me, Terry. She is the wife of the other couple. I think she has a thing for you, she's always looking at you and sometimes I feel she wants to see you behind my back, she's giving me some bad feelings lately. I didn't notice I said, do you think she wants to cheat with me? My wife said I'm pretty sure she would if she had the opportunity. Terry is a young looking 43 yr old beauty, she could choose almost any guy and get them to play with her if she wanted. My wife gained a lot of weight and does little to help herself and has become unattractive. Her husband is a good friend and I am sexually attracted to his wife Terry. I told my wife maybe we should back off a little with them, I don't want to get involved with her or have you feeling like it could happen. OK my wife said I don't know how we can push them away but I want to for a while. OK I said we'll just be too busy or have other things to do. The conversation was scaring me, like my wife was suspicious of me too. She had a good reason, Terry and I have been having sex for 2 years, the woman is infactuated with me. Terry is giving our secret away by getting too close to me in the presence of her husband and my wife. He knows nothing and does not suspect her of cheating with me or anyone else. Terry was cheating before I got involved with her. Her husband neglected her sexual needs for too long and so she sought it from another guy who she said she fucked a few times but she wanted someone else, me. Since she already cheated and her guilt was gone she came onto me when we were at her house for a family party. I intially said no, she became very moody with me for turning her down. I watched her standing at the kitchen sink with her short shorts doing dishes and shaking her tiny little frustrated ass in the process. She was so hot those long thin tan legs, that tight ass I went over to her and said we need to talk but not here. Are you getting interested she asked, yea I said. I met her the next day in a park. We sat in my pickup and talked about it. We agreed to keep it simple, extremely discrete and infrequent enough so no one put 2 and 2 together. It was working until my wife caught her looking at me 1 too many times, my wife just knew Terry could be a threat. I called Terry at her office, we have to back off, my wife is suspicious of us because she caught you looking at me at me several times. She thinks you want to have an affair so for now we have to stop, I'm sure she'll be watching us. Terry didn't take it well, "but I love you, I can't not have you now" she said. I know I said I love you too. Then I said the only way out of this is we divorce and get together after that. I have to think about that she said, ok you think about it because I'm already thinking about it. I want a divorce, she's not very sexual, she doesen't take care of herself and she's been too moody for years, I can't stand it when your everything she's not. I have to think about it she said and I didn't hear from her for a month. I can't divorce she said, other then the sex he's good to me. OK I said, if that's how you feel you should stop fucking around on him and try to help him with what ever his sex issues are, how he could have any with a beautiful woman like you just confuses the hell out of me. So we are finished, I'd of left my wife for you but you won't leave him for me, I find it sad for me and somewhat respectable of you. She started crying, I don't want you to leave me I want to stay with you. No Terry you have to try and fix your marriage first, if that fails then you call me because it's too painful now for both of us not to see each other. I hung up, I was really upset but had to end it with an open possibility. I was going to divorce with or without Terry, I can't stand my wife for letting herself go. She got up to 260 pounds, never listened to her doctors, wound up with diabeties and was miserible most of the time. I was done trying to help someone who refused to at least try and get her health back, it was like she didn't care and belive me I tried everything to help her I just can't take her foul moods, I could of lived with her weight problems if she'd at least tried to help herself. I was done, sick of being her houseboy. She did little around the house anymore, she couldn't food shop or provide me with sex. I divorced her and she seemed relieved I did. I bought her a new car and a condo as part of our settlement. I didn't want to screw her over but I know I did when I was fucking Terry, but she didn't know about our affair. I didn't hear from Terry but she knew from my wife we divorced. I tried to put her into a fond memory. I moved with my company a few hundred miles away. Sitting in my office 3 years later I had a phone call, I picked up the phone, it was Terry. Hey your not easy to find she said, yea the company changed names what's up. I'm divorced I want to see you. We've been together for almost 3 years, we live together as husband and wife without the paperwork. neither one of us are in a hurry to marry but we probably will someday. Since I left my marriage my carreer took off to more than I ever dreamed and my love life is so much better now with Terry because we're not hiding anything. Her x was hurt and mad at her then me when he found out and my x wife is seething she said you were fucking Terry all the while and lying to me about it. No it never happened I said. We live so far from them it really does not matter. I have a beautiful fun and exciting woman and she's shows me love like I never felt before. I do have some guilt for cheating and for divorcing her when she was in bad health. We hear she's doing better, she finally is listening to her doctors after a near death experience. I hope her additude changes for the better or she will never have a serious relationship. I don't hate her I just no longer am in love with her and she never loved me enough anyway. What I feel now is so different from the love I had, and I really don't think my x loved me very much from the start.
Thing is new seems better, but sooner or later it won't be new anymore. After several years you will be looking for another Terry. Your real wife probably sensed you were looking and it didn't help her view of herself. Why didn't you take control if you cared so much instead of spreading your dick around. Why didn't you take control of the grocery shopping; why didn't you get proactive in trying to get your wife to lose weight such as getting her in the habit of taking a walk with you ect. You just sit back and let her get worse without trying and took the easy way out by cheating. You come here to try to feel better about your choices, but their will come a day that karma will come back on you; you won't be healthy forever and then you will know how your wife felt; I'm sure it didn't make her feel any better to know that she was right about you. One day you will be on the receiving end of bad health and I hope you think about her and how she felt and how you ditched her instead of staying on top of encouraging her and trying to make healthier choices for you both. Easy to go after a slut; hard road is to stick to your commitment. I'm 138 lbs and I haven't been cheated on, because my husband stays with me and makes it work.
It's funny. I was your wife once because I am a nurse and herniated five discs. Well I was never as big as her but I was overweight and not attractive. My husband treated me like a dog. Western medicine wasn't working for me. I was just drugged all the time, couldn't move and felt ugly. My husband would look at me with revulsion. I decided I wanted to get well. I started eating right, doing yoga, swimming, physical therapy. Soon I was looking better than I did in my 20s. At this time I was 40 years old. I felt amazing and got my confidence back. All of a sudden my husband couldn't get enough of me but it was too late. I didn't choose to injur my back. But I did choose to find a way back to health but I couldn't love this man anymore that was so cruel to me when I could barely move or retain bladder control. Shortly thereafter I met a wonderful man who has proven that he loves me in sickness and in health. We have been together for 17 years. When I divorced my husband we had been married 20 years. He told many people he just couldn't understand why I would leave him. Told many lies about me . But it doesn't matter. The truth set me free. The moral of the story? If you can't love someone because of the way they look, let them go. Having an affair in order not to hurt them is ridiculous. I think you were the tumor she needed to excise in order to want to get healthy. Maybe she was miserable all the time because she knew how you felt about her. I'm glad you've found happiness. I hope she will too.
I just don't get these people who get in a relationship and then give up. They stop taking care of themselves, don't do their part, don't communicate, and then blame their partner for everything. Fucking pathetic. I can't tell you how many married women I've seduced over the years just by giving them a simple compliment, love your hair, your eyes are so beautiful, that blouse looks great on you, etc. A few kinds words, a little attention, and then in the bed (or the back of my car, my condo, even the bathroom at the gym...
They all say the same thing, their partner let themselves go, put on weight, isn't good in bed, no flowers, no compliments, no presents, no cards, never a kind or encouraging word.
Well, if that's you then just know, there's some guy like me willing to give your woman what you aren't and she's going to give us what we want (and usually what she's not giving you!). Can't tell you how many have said they've never tried anal before, but give it to me.
All the best to both of you, it took a long while but was certainly worth it
Glad you have found happiness