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Do you think she is having sex with others?
My wife has been a support worker for years and does sleep overs each week on two to three nights at a couple of homes.
I have been married for 34 years and we get on pretty well mostly however I get odd feelings in my gut from time to time that all is not o.k.
I have asked her a few times over the last 2 years if she has any problems to talk about and she says no not at all.
I happened to be in the back of our car a few weeks ago and saw her over night bag and thought I would have a peek and I was surprised to see a vibrator hidden under the bottom liner of the bag and a G' string amongst it all.
The reason why I was surprised is she told me on many occasions that she doesn't use a vibrator, let alone taking it to her place of work??
The reason why I had a look is because she has on occasions been wearing black lacey undies as well to work, [ I am at home studying at present and do all the washing so I see what gets worn, as you would], and the homes she works in are looking after people with slight impairments so I fully believe it has nothing to do with that side of things.
On occasion she has come home from her shifts and only glances and looks away on initial conversation but seems to settle after a while, [ I think a couple of flags but not sure?]
She has also been obsessive with her iPad and iPhone for many months and I asked her to stop taking them into the bathroom and toilet all the time as she would be in there for 30 to 40 minutes at times. That was two weeks ago but she has cut back on this obsession however when she thinks Iam not paying attention in goes one or the other??
And today I was going through our home reno photos and I happened to see a square that said 'Recently Deleted' photos, so I had a look and to my surprise the day of her birthday she decided to go into town and look at stuff during the day as we were to go out that night and this photo of what appears to be the side of what I think is my wife, [ A thigh and rib area with what appears to be an arm possibly tied behind her back, but couldn't see properly and a bit of a coffee table with what appears to be a Silver Bullet Vibrator on it??/
And after I recovered the deleted photo it gave me a street location and a time when the photo was taken which was when she was in this area??
Now I can't prove anything because I don't have her face in the picture or anything on that side of the body to go by,[ she has a couple of tatts on the other side] this photo has obviously been taken by whoever she was with out her knowing to start with but she had deleted it....or so she thought!!
Don't get me wrong, she has been going through menopause for 18 months but the last couple of months our sex is getting better and better so I am not complaining here, but I am asking for peoples opinions?? Is my gut telling me correct feelings when I sense she could be doing things when she is not here?? or is it my imagination/? I just can't prove it with that photo as it doesn't give anything away. the beauty of wifi and phones talking in sink with ipads, I hope she ends up getting a bit complacent and maybe I will see if I get a good pic??
G'day mate,
No she seems to be all good now, haven't had any strange feelings for ages so what ever might have been if it was is now not!
so to speak.
And the photo wasn't hers it was from a work item and was sorted.
Has HRT replacement, is not as bad on the tablet since a talk but I just don't have any suspicions anymore.
Thanks for asking but
Cheers.
Get a tracking GPS and hide in in her car. You might even find one that could be hidden in her bag (add a false botton that batches the one in the bag). How about a sound activated audio recorded that looks like something she would carry or wear (ink pin, jewelery, a light for her key chain, etc). There are stores that sell spy devices.
Cheers I will look into it, I changed my password on the computer we have had for years because I didn't want her snooping on my emails like these posts and she asked me what it was this morning and I opened the computer for her, [she has two of her own mind you ] and she went nuts and is now accusing me of hiding stuff from her and wants out!!!!!
This stuff gives me the shits!!
I am the one concerned about her and she rifles that into me, I just ignored her and she hasn't spoken to me all day, funny that as apparently one of the other women asked her to do Tuesday night which she never does and now she is away Tuesday to thursday so I don't know if this is very convienient or not?? anyway I have just about had this crap and ready to move on at present after 30 odd years, my head is confused but my gut says she is up to something, wish I was a mind reader hey!!!!!
Being a counselor is stressful work. She needs some relief using the vibrator. The g-string probably helps put her in the mood to play with herself.
Hi, she works with people who are mentally impaired, she looks after them during 8 or 24 hour shifts, I don't believe anything could really happen at her place of work as these type [ that she looks after ] have a habbit of spilling the 'beans' about things, I think some how it is out of work, when I don't know.
She is probably fucking her pastor
Sounds to me like she's cheating. Also sounds like she's being extra careful to not get caught. What you need to do is invest in a high quality titanium reinforced kevlar chastity belt with a combination lock that can only be opened by you. Other than that, you can always give her the old crotch check everytime she comes home acting strange. Rip her draweres off and bury your face in her snatch, if you get a mouth full of another man's splooge, then you have her pretty well busted, and you can either dump her or use it to manipulate her in ways you've only dreamed of.
I like the bit about the belt!!!
I think that after 34 years if I pulled one of those out of the cupboard she might just suspect I might be up to something!!! ;))
You see she is a Scorpio and I am a Leo,
she is deep' and doesn't give anything away,
I on the other hand would get caught lying about the weather forcast!!!!!!!!!
The other bit about getting down and dirty is a good idea, I have actually done that but not when she has come home from work, probably where I went wrong......but she showers at work when she wants so I would never know as she can clean up too easily.
But I will admit that because the majority of the time I do all the washing [ I am the Bitch" [ joke ] until I finish my diploma studies and on a couple of occassions the unusually messy undies got my curiosity up!!
thats what set my 'Radar' off, anyway I will just have to keep her relaxed and make sure Iam not showing suspiscion and if there is a thing happening eventually she will slip up, although she has been a few steps in front of me so far, it is good to get some feedback off people just to see what they think!!
Cheers
If she is giving you good sex leave it alone. Or just ask her but don't judge or confront her harshly.
Great advice and I think you on the money!!:)
I used to do a similar job, support/care aid, in group homes, and can tell you..Overnight staff will find ways to pass the time and fuck. For a time, I worked with a petite, dark-haired girl (who really had no business working there, as she was too pretty, and, the male residents often spoke of raping her; one guy actually did trap her in a laundry room) on 11:00pm-7:00am shift.
She and I got along well, and, no surprise, we started messing around in the middle of the night. One night, we did our rounds, all was silent and well, and we ended up in an unused tv room, on the couch with each other. It was maybe 3:30am, and, we just went at it. I fucked her on the couch that night, and many nights after. We kept it quiet, until learning of day shift woman who was having sex with a driver while the residents were in their programs or courses during the day.
Trust me..If you're wife is working an overnight shift, once things calm down or work is caught up..She's finding a cock to munch on or be slid inside of her. It happens. Heck, should they not have some fun in exchange for the lousy pay? That's how we saw it..
You are so right, I worked in a group home for over ten years . I slept with four different men I worked with during that time.My husband used to refer to one of the men as my work husband ,we were very close friends for four years while he worked there. If my husband only knew that most nights I was getting fucked by my " work husband" or blowing him he would probably have left me. Many Saturday mornings my husband would want sex as soon as I came in from work, not knowing he was the second guy to stick his dick in me that day.
Hi,
but surely he must have noticed something was up? maybe he turned a 'blind eye' to it as he couldn't prove it [ like me ] my wife just says no way If I suggest anything that I think, says it's disgusting and she has too high a "Morrels" and would never do anything?? did you say things like that???
Thats the part that gets you...but if I even mention anything about another women chatting to me or being friendly she basically says " I catch you doing anything and thats it we are done"
but yet I still have these little snippets of evidence that may or may not suggest to the contrary??
I know and agree that once you sign off at 10pm as she does to go to her staff bed she probably could do anything AS long as nothing goes wrong with the three clients, could she sneek out some where and get next door to her to cover?? I don't know how they could do it as if something goes wrong??
Would she still have mind blowing sex with me if she was into someone else??
I know one thing, our sex appears to be heading to higher levels with my help of course but what we have been starting to touch on [ a little bondage ] She would not allow before as if I tried she would shut me down quickly.
But maybe she has found a 'teacher' out there??? who knows, still think maybe female and not male.
My husband never once made a comment about anything being different when we would have sex . I worked three days a week where I stayed in the house 24 hours a day. The first guy, Kevin, and I just hit it right off . We each had a separate bedroom but would spend much of our night in one or the others bed. It started after he had a bad break up with his girlfriend , we were talking in his bedroom after everyone was a sleep,next thing I know I'm sucking his dick, then getting fucked from behind. It went on like that most nights we were together.I can remember being so scared, thinking he has to know the first time I came in after getting fucked that morning and my husband went down on me , but he didn't stop he just ate me to orgasm before fucking me. I think my husband was just so horny after the three days of no sex he either didn't notice or just didn't care as long as he was getting sex.
Hi, I am not sure its a bloke, I am thinking maybe women but can't be sure as I just don't have much to go on.
Apart from the info I supplied above there was a couple of web cam sites I found in her phone 2 years ago of which she denied and said she didn't put them there it must have been the oldest boy on her phone.
The bit of a photo has got me in two minds but as I said the sex over the last month has been pretty steamy which is fantastic and I would never not think any of the wiser.
She has been with this company for 10 months and she only looks after 3 people in each home at night on her shifts, 3 females in 1 home and 3 males in the other, she works by herself and the other home next door usually has other women in it working there respective shift.
I just can't work out how this photo was deleted on her iphone and when I saw it and pressed the recover button' that it came back into her normal photo listings and gave the suburb and time that she deleted it which was her birthday at 2.16pm, but as I can only partially see the side of what I presume is her thigh and her left arm pulled back behind her I can't tell, but as she was in that part of town on that afternoon I can't see why it wasn't her.
The area that the photo came up was where shopping centres and a tavern and motel is, but the table and colour of the carpet in the bit of the picture I can see don't match the rooms on the web page that I viewed, still that doesn't mean that those features aren't in another room does it??
I have lots of in depth chats with her but she 'skirts' around the sex topic alot and becomes very prudish sometimes.
If I mention the thought of a threesome or about two women together she says it turns her stomach and not to talk about it as its discusting.
She also says if I ever cheat on her its over [ I have kissed another women years ago, it was a birthday kiss to me from another women that was a bit intense and she walked in and saw it, so just not sure if she is or not.
Listen and look for the warning signs or flags of a cheating wife. If you suspect her cheating on you, your instinct is probably right. She will start to display distant behavior like getting up before you do, and getting to bed sooner. Sex will drop off dramatically or virtually be non existent.
She will also be obsessed with her phone constantly checking it, and or texting.
When questioned, she will likely make up some excuse which is absurd. Don't believe it! She will guard her phone like a bank vault and it will likely be within reach at all times.
Most wife cheaters are VERY good liars and or sociopaths with the ability to convince even an intelligent and educated man like myself.
She will probably either leave early for work and arrive home later than usual.
She will probably say that she made a stop at the store for some groceries or went shopping at a particular clothing store along her route with no receipt to prove her whereabouts or time. When you question her, she will become violent and angry. Another sign of sociopath behavior, guilt, etc.
Watch the laundry. If you suspect her going through a lot of pantyhose or nylons, that's another sign. Either her lover is tearing them off during sex, or she is leaving them behind somewhere.
Theses are just some of the signs I noticed when my wife (now ex) was having an affair with her boss at work and may not be applicable in all cases. Good luck.