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My Boyfriends secret box
I've been dating my boyfriend now for 2 years and we are a strong couple, the sex is great and nothing is kept secret.
Well.....I was staying over one day and I woke up to find he had popped out to the shops and I was still asleep. I got bored so decided to go through a box that had memories in it however where this usually is there was a replacement one. I opened only to find a tone of sex toys and clothing. This included dildos, vibrators, chains, gags, collars, latex, gloves, tights, gimp masks, hundreds of butt plugs, handcuffs, anal beads, rope, anal hooks, thongs, porn DVDs and pic catsuits.
I never knew he was into this kind of stuff and has left me to a shock from this day but I decided to just ignore it as he wouldn't be happy that I was looking where I shouldn't. I don't think e is gay or bi but it's definitely been in my head for a long time now.
Personally what do you think I should do?
Start wearing latex clothing and see how he reacts.
However, make it your fetish that you decided to try for whatever reason.
Make it fashion at first. You just like wearing latex clothing.
Let him make it sexual.
He meant for you to find it...No question. I do property damage clean-outs, and find this stuff alllll the time.. Boxes, bags, videos (found one "Hot Latina Pussy Adventures, Part 3; I wasn't aware there was a 1 and 2), toys, even a cattle prod. The owner woman was there at the time, about 4 feet behind me, and told me, when I got to the steel case "Y..Yhou don't have..to...do..th that one" but I was on a roll and wanted to get done. Opened up the stainless steel case, and there it was. Sex Cattle Prod. This ultra-conservative, kept wife woman, was hiding the cattle prod.. Laughed my ass off on the way home.
As for myself, sure, I had a similar stash that my now ex-wife never found. Not toys, but, some CD's, off the beaten path porn mags, probably 40 nude shots of my hot older sister (she and I had fun doing those in her old apartment), other random things. Kept it in the drop ceiling of my basement office, and ex never knew a thing. Often wondered what she'd have done if found the polaroids of my hot, naked sister, especially since, as things got worse in our marriage due to her being a raging alcoholic, she vaguely brought her up once, saying something like "You seem to like being around your sis-ter a lot..Why?".
So, he left a box out in the open, unlocked, that is big enough to hold "hundreds" of butt plugs and other toys? And you really think he didn't mean for you to find it and ask him about it? Look sweety, he's into some kinky stuff and this is his way of breaking the ice. If you find it and run then you're not the one he's looking for, if you ask about it then you're open to play. Problem is, you haven't said anything, so he doesn't know where he stands with you.
If he has toys, that doesn't mean he's gay. If he likes having sex with men, then THAT means he's gay or bi.
A lot of people have kinks, but are afraid they will scare off a partner they like if they open up, and it's never a good idea to lay all that on the table early in a relationship. If you are willing to incorporate some of this in your play time together, I suggest taking the lead and suggesting you try something, like it is your idea...start slow, and pick something you feel ok with trying, and suggest just that. Maybe read up a little first to increase your comfort level. No need to tell him you found his stash.
Well Jessie, I think you are going to experience most of that stuff on/in/around you if you hang about with this bloke much longer, you better make a serious decision and if that is not what you clearly want it maybe time to think about letting it go and get a more decent guy, I bet he knew you would look into the secret box