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Husband doesnt want to try anal sex, but friend does.
Im a 37 year old woman, Ive been married for 12 years and have 2 kids with my husband. We've always been kinda "traditional" about our sex lives but for the last year Ive gotten very curious about anal sex. I know its supposed to hurt a lot, but I also know many women get to a point where they enjoy it and find a different kind of pleasure in it. As I said we've always been traditional about sex but this is something that I would like to experiment before I get old and I dont feel as comfortable with my body as I do now.
I mentioned this to my husband and to my surprise he wasnt interested in it. He finds anal sex to be gross, he says the asshole is not meant for that and the whole idea doesnt turn him on at all. This was a big bummer for me, and even when we are having sex and sometimes I say things like "you could try the other hole" he is just not interested in it.
A couple months ago, I made the mistake of mentioning all this situation as a joke to my co-workers one afternoon that we went out for drinks on Happy Hour. One co-worker got VERY interested in my story and now hes trying to get me to have anal sex with him. Hes always joking with me around the subject, he says things like "baby whenever you want... dont worry its not going to hurt" and stuff like that. He is joking but I know for a fact that he would jump all over the opportunity if I give him the slightest hint of being interested.
I mean he is a good looking man, but Ive never thought about cheating on my husband. However I have to say his proposals sound more and more interesting every time I hear them. I dont know, sometimes I wish my husband would just fuck me in the ass and get it all over with! but hes not into it and I dont want him to do it by force, that would defeat the entire purpose of enjoying the whole experience.
Now I feel like when they say "when you cant have something its when you want it more" I feel exactly like that. I want to try anal sex, I want to know how it feels and I know all men around me would jump at the idea of fucking me in the ass, geeez I work out, I have a nice ass! I dont know what to do :(
If your mentioning other men and it sounds like u fantasized about it with them, you have already cheated on your husband. What would you do if he imagined having sex with another woman especially someone you know, would you like it.
Be sure it's no go before the next step. Then, if it is, go on Ashley Madison and explain exactly what you want. Hang on to your butt. You'll be swamped with messages. Hints: No face pics or pics with identifying marks, condoms, lube, no dinners, no personal conversations. Never the same guy more than 2 times. You want a man in your butt and nothing else.
I'm in the same boat as you. I'm the open minded experimenter but my wife is a boring sexual prude. I want her to strap on a dick and fuck me in the ass but she won't do it. I'm dying to have a prostate orgasm but I don't want to cheat either. The urge can take over you can't it? To experience this I will have to do it behind my wife's back. I was told that prostitutes will strap on and fuck men that want to get fucked in the ass. Or I can go out and find some horny guy to fuck me. I definitely feel your pain.
Go to the adult store, buy yourself a vibratory and did does and some lube. When you got a evening to yourself down a few glasses of wine, lube up you asshole and dildo, start using the vibratory then slide that puppy in there!
Word of advice..when doing butt stuff, make sure there's no chance of poop being a part of it. It's a sure buzz kill.
Talk woman, TALK! i know you think you have allready tried talking to your hubby, but you didnt do it idiot-proof. make something very clear: you are sexy gal who wants her needs met, and there are dozens of guys who'd do it. if he really loves you, and you make sure you tell him how important this is for you, he'll do it.
Yes, do that! dont cheat!
Don't cheat.
Damn woman. I've never known a man who didn't want do do his woman in the butt. I've been pounding my old lady's ass for years, and she enjoys it almost as much as me. Hell, I've even let a few of my buddies have a go at her fine ass.
I condone cheating. I don't think ppl were meant to have sex with just one person for their entire life. I was in your position. I had all these fantasies that I really wanted to try. Some I just couldn't tell my husband. Don't wanna have to justify the reaction he would give me. I did tell him a couple. I wanted to try a threesome. He asked whether I wanted another man or another woman. I said both. I also said I wanted to try anal. He shot all of those down. So I found a friend that was ok with me being married.
I wouldn't recommend a co-worker. If you go for it and have to end it, you could be stuck working with someone in an awkward situation.
Would fuck you in the ass if you want it. I did it once with a girl, 32 years ago. I hurt her. The wife gets my thumb. I don't want to rip her. She enjoys it. If you lube up, guide your husband in there. He will continue. Trust me.
You want to give it a try even if it means going behind your husband's back because life is too short to keep wondering as long as you aren't caught I know I like anal sex me and my husband has been doing it for years