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I Shouldn't Have Asked to Sext Other Guys...
My fiancee doesnt seem very sexually attracted to me, in fact, recently I discovered that for awhile it was because he was looking at porn... He isnt now, or at least has been hiding well, and still isnt as interested in me... I know he isnt cheating. Anyway, Im so horny almost ALL THE TIME, and he never feels like fingering me or even makingout and kissing my neck... Even if i try to turn him on first, in fact, he always sends me away (usally across the room or off the couch, sometimes to another room.) we are waiting to have sex (inculding oral) till marraige, but he wont even sext me. So I have been wanting to sext guys i dont know, NOT pictures of course, but i want something... I want someone to be interested... So i asked him if i could. We've always been very open about our fantasies with each other even talking about having a 3som with another girl (im bi he's straight) and he knows what i want and dont want and vice versa. He thought i was joking at first, but got very upset when he realized i was serious and told me to never bring it up again, never talk about it again, we will never talk about it, never ask again, he was offended id even consider it cuz it means im not interested in him anymore (TOTALLY untrue), i was never to do it, and i was never to think about it again. End of convo. I was pretty hurt and i just wanna cry. He wont even talk about it with me. I also have a rape fantasy (FAKE rape) which he says he isnt comfortable taking about. I need to talk about it tho. Anyway, what should i do, did i do something wrong, was i insensitive? Thx.
Did you get married? If not I’ll marry you. Or if you did I’ll help you fulfill your fantasy or fantasies.
To sext other guys is personal. It is called an emotional affair at some point and is considered adultery by all sex experts in the field; you can even look it up. A 3some could just be for sex, but sexting, flirting, cheating is personal and it does go against being faithful. The rape thing seems to suggest that you've been touched wrong when you were young or you watch too much porn. A real rape is brutal and that shouldn't be roleplayed on porn sites; it is very insensitive of other people's feelings. Your BF could've been abused or he just doesn't find rape exciting; who would except an abuser.
If your bodily and emotional needs are not met with a guy and he won't even talk about it dump him and move on. Life is to short to be tied down like that.
Good luck
Probably need to find someone thatyou got more in common with
No you didn't do nothing wrong. If you need someone to sext I'll be more than happy to do it he doesn't need to know.