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I'm disgusted with myself
I made out with a guy last night that I've only hung out with twice. We were sleeping in the same bed together and so we started to make out. He fondled me a little and eventually took off my bra so I was lying in the bed completely topless. I was super uncomfortable so I tried to hide myself under the blanket. He pulled the blanket away and told me it was ok. This statement just made me even more uncomfortable. I'm pretty sure he expected me to give him a hand job or a blow job but I was so uncomfortable in the situation that I couldn't bring myself to do it. I feel like I was used and violated, but I also didn't stop it. I'm just so grossed out with myself right now.
Erm... what were you doing in the same bed as this guy? I know that if a woman says no then all guys should respect this and I cannot see the point of having sex with a woman who doesn't want to have sex with you. But jumping into bed with a guy that you have "only hung out with twice", whatever the hell that means, is gonna make him suspect that you are a bit of a slapper and a BJ or handjob is on the cards. But you don't say how far he tried to go and if you did in fact say NO.
It seems all that happened is that he got your tits out, I am a European so I am used to going onto a beach where most of the girls have their tits out. In the future don't get into bed with a guy unless you are at least comfortable with him having a look at your tits.
Ignore the asshole who just called you a slut.
It's the guy's fault not yours.
It's not "okay" if you were uncomfortable.
And the guy knows she is uncomfortable how?? She didn't tell him and didn't stop him. but its still his fault. This is the typical feminist logic, jump in bed with a guy that you hardly know, then you feel like a slut so you say he violated you or worse use the R word. Here is a little advise, get to know a guy and make sure you want to have sex with him before you jump in bed with him . Don't lead him on , get in his bed then acted shocked and "violated" when he wants sex.
Congratulations...you are officially a slut.
A bad spot. Sadly most women (about 80%) are raped by someone they know. The fact that you kinda knew this guy probably made him think it was ok. A tough spot. No body here can tell you what you should have done, because we weren't there. Like the other person said, learn from it, and quit bumming about it. THe big majoiryt of guys will respect it if you till them NO (I always did) They might be put off, and gripe about it but the will stop& leave you alone. DOn't EVER feel bad about telling some to stop (But for CRAP-sake)do it early on don't wait til some of your clothers are off.
But she wasn't raped in fact all he did was to get her tits out after she got in bed with him wearing only a bra covering her top. What message does that send out. I can respect a women who wants to stay a virgin but she should not act like a slut. If I got into bed with a women who only had a bra on top after only seeing (hung out????) her a couple of times I would suspect that she might come across. If I then took her bra off without her saying "Stop that you fat pig" and then if she started acting all coy then I would think she was probably a 'prick teaser'.
So If she wants to feel comfortable then she should not get into bed with near strangers after taking her blouse off.
I wouldnt feel so bad, you were uncomfortable and you stopped it before he put his dick anywhere near your mouth, hand or pussy. You were obviously uninterested but he thought otherwise. You took control and stopped where it needed to stop. I wouldnt stress over him groping your tities sweetheart. No harm no foul. next time you will have more confidence because of this incident, you have grown in a positive way and excercised your girl power. Never be afraid to do that, no matter who the guy is. If you dont want to do anything, then dont.
It's hard to control your emotions sometimes, and that can make you do things you regret later. making mistakes is a part of life.
instead of hating yourself, try to look at what happened objectively, and learn from it.
hating yourself helps noone.