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Found a big black dildo in my wifes closet
The other day I was getting some Halloween decorations out of my wife's closet and I stumbled on a very large black dildo. It is obviously used, and it looks like she has had it for a long time. We have been together for ten years and have a happy marriage. Sex is good, when it happens. We have sex 1-2 times a month. My wife and I are both white. A few years into marriage my wife had told me that she had had a couple of black lovers before she met me. When we talked about our prior experiences before, this is one fact that she neglected to tell me. I felt like she was dishonest, why wouldn't she tell me? The thing is, now I found this dildo that is almost twice my size and I believe it sees way more action than I do. It is very irritating because she gets mad if I look at porn, or if I masturbate. I have been starting to flirt with other women and contemplating sleeping around because of the lack of sex. Now there is this big black dildo, and my wife is obviously sexually gratified because of it, meanwhile I have to sneak around and masturbate just to satisfy myself. If I brought it up to her I know she would turn it into a huge fight because she never takes responsibility for anything she does, and simply screams, brings up my past wrong doings and makes me feel like shit. I don't know what I am going to do.
Before she comes home from where ever, get out a bottle of wine, a couple glasses, and put that dong on the table with them. When she comes in and sees it, tell her, let's talk. Ask questions, let her do the talking. Listen. It's your sexyal relationship with her. Decide your part in it and include these new revelations. You are just catching up to unknown stuff. If she loses her shit. Maybe she needs time to chill, or you may have a decision to make.
Dude, I could understand your pain period Period I also found 2 dildos in my wife's closet. that really surprised me. We haven't had sex for over a month. But she makes me eat her out. A couple times a week, and she only gave me a h*** j** or 2.
She's your wife. Quit taking her shit and be a man. If she doesn't like it, she can leave. Men can always start over, women have a freshness date.
Get a nanny cam and tape her masturbating or maybe fucking a black dude who knows. Then tell her a couple times a month AINT cutting it. Then walk!!
I like that idea.
Sounds like I married her sister lol
Then I married the other sister.
I was not in your exact situation but pretty fucking close. A week before my wedding I was introduced to my soon to be wife’s ex. 6’11” black guy. I have no problem with him being black, but I had a huge fucking problem that she kept it a secret for 18 months.
When I brought it up to her later that day when we were alone she flipped and did exactly what your wife does. Got mad, we argued, she cried and made me feel like shit. She “omitted” information on purpose to keep it from me. I don’t know why she did it but she did and made me out to be the bad one in that situation.
I spent 18 years of my life with that terrible woman. Unhappy, boring sex life (I mean maybe just laying there and complaining is hot to her), never and I mean NEVER taking responsibility for anything she did. No matter how big or small. So one day I woke up and decided I’d wasted enough of my life and started focusing on me and my happiness. It worked. After a year I was happier, healthier, more focused and no longer resented or disliked her. I also had no desire or will to stay together. I left. We divorced. I left my 4,000 sf house into a tiny apartment and I have never been happier. I date women that I can tell them how I feel and what I want. If they don’t listen that the end.
She is a master manipulator and I suspect your wife is too.
It’s hard but start thinking of getting out.
You can fuck me behind your wife’s back as many times as you want! Have me bent over your car while your clapping my cheeks in my skirt in broad daylight or with your friends masturbating to my booty jiggling as you stroke in N out of me, than you and your friends all train me and fill my booty with all your cum! 🤤🥴🍑💦
1. Buy a sex toy of a pussy and ass, have sex with it, let her know the toy is so much tighter and feels good. Go to the bedroom and lock the door, tell her you need sex more often and need some privacy every night.
Bring it up. Communication is very important. Tell her that if she can't talk about it then she must not care if you are with her or not. If that doesn't work, then go ahead and find some pussy elsewhere, since she really does not care
This is good advice.
My wife has been with a black guy prior to me it does not bother me one bit. I have bought her dildos in the past cause if she horny and I ain't there well handles biz. She has cheated in are marriage but not with a black guy are own race. But if it were with a black guy I would feel the same just pissed she cheated. I would tell her look found your black snake and looks like it gets more action then me if you want to keep it just give up when I want some. I no the answer then fuck you and your black stallion and go get some strange especially from a race she don't like. Cause we all have a race that bothers us
Lots of white women have had sex with black men. My wife never claims to have but she has been with Mexican men. She fantasizes about black men and she does have a black dildo, though...hmmmm.
My wife's liberal mom would mock her because she had all white boyfriends. In a shoe box with her old college stuff I found a shocking photo. She's naked on her knees giving a Black muscleman a blowjob. It was years before me but still, I could see the BJ -- but the photo? Her story: she was at a Sorority Sister's bachelorette party. Two strippers there- one black, one white. Her and 2 other sisters asked if he would pose with his dick her their mouths, naked in the back room. He said sure. She said it was a Faux BJ, sucked him just long enough to get him hard for the picture and the ritual often happens at theses parties. She sent a copy to her mom. Happy ? She wasn't.
Well that fact that people masturbate is not alarming, nor is it news. get over that, it is completely normal.. also, for men and women to fantasize after being married for any length of time is normal too. she is with you, not someone else, and the toys make routine more interesting. it is wrong if she gets mad at you for the same things she is doing, so that is unfair. maybe play along with her and use the toy on her and have fun with each other. you can also buy a hollow strapon for fun now and then. most importantly, you need to ask yourself how important is open communication and a healthy sex life in your marriage. if you feel it is a priority, and after talking with her about it, if you still dont feel your needs are being met, then you might have to rethink why you are in this particular relationship.
Sounds like you may want to look into growing a pair and your wife needs to grow up. Also, they do sell vibrating sleeves and such for guys to use alone, as well as sleeves you can wear to enhance your girth and length.
Don't worry, she's probably just doing a little fantasy play with the dildo and getting off remembering her time with the black guys. Just because the memory still gets her excited, it doesnt mean she will cheat. I think about one of my black lovers all the time but I'm not cheating with black guys right now. You may have some hot shaved perfect snatch of an ex girlfriend that you think about sometimes, doesnt mean your out looking to hook up with her. let her have a little fun and fantasy and you have yours. If you are turned on by the thought of it then do some role playing in the bedroom and watch some interracial porn with her to see if she gets off on it and will let you bring a black guy into the bedroom to fuck her. If it makes both of you happy then do it. I would love for my husband to suggest it but if he doesnt I will be ok. He has a very nice cock if I could just get him to use it a little more often.
Sounds like she has had or .. certainly wants big black cock. My advice to you would be to organise a black guy to walk in on her blindfolded and tell her to suck 'your' cock... when she finally opens her eyes and realises its BBC she will be either thank you for years to cum, or she will call the police haha/.. I'd take the chance.
Hide it under the edge of the mattress. When you are about to have sex, pull it out and shove it in her instead of your cock. She should instantly know she has been found out. Don't stop until she has finished then get yours. afterwords, have a good talk about it. If you are thinking of cheating to get even with her, don't do it (even though I advocate for extramarital affairs, this is a dangerous reason to do it) Make sure you tell her how you feel and that you have thought about cheating but love her and don't want to hurt her. Sounds like you view this dildo as cheating and tell her that.
Really good advice.
I think your wife’s reaction will be to become emotional and turn the situation around or divert the discussion to something you have done or thought about doing. If she does that bring it back to the big dildo. You have just as much right to talk, have feelings, have them hurt, be heard…
If she is unwilling or more likely she want listen you should consider separating.
Oh and take the dildo with you. Why? Why not.
Face it the woman isn't happy with you and your smallish penis. She wants a big black man to pound her like she used to get it. You may as well find some prudish woman that would be afraid of black men and let your wife have what she wants. Sorry, no need to tie her up any longer!
Surprise her & Bring it out when your in the middle of having sex.
She'll be shocked & maybe a little angry but probably more open to talking about it.
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Set up a hidden cam catch her in the act, then use that material to jerk off with, then let her catch you wanking off, watching her videos of her pleasing her self, then take it from there, both of you will love the sex after that, in fact you can even use it on her while you make love to her, she will go insane.
Not the OP but I like this idea