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Am i a bad person for not liking the idea of most submissive men?
(im a girl for reference)
my bf and i have been having some sex problems, he's a switch and im a sub. being dominant in any form makes me very uncomfortable. hes suggested the idea of a threesome-- we dont know with who but i said id be open to it, owever i think we both want 2 different things out of it. i know myself very welland i know id only like it if it was a certain way
how he wants it - he wants to be submissive and have the third put their dick/strap inside of him while he eats me out, possibly switching to fuck me or the third
how i want it - 99% of attention is on me, pleasing him and the third, me being submissive, neither of them putting their dicks/strap in each other.
part of this is that when im not into something, im really strongly not into even the thought of it.
im not into pegging or guys taking it up the ass (especially not seeing my boyfriend take it, im cool with whatever he puts up there in private but i just dont really want to know about it) - but specifically when a woman is involved. gay guys are cool, they can do whatever you want, hell im gay! but just for some reason any time a woman is involved i get completely turned off. this also applies to guys being submissive, im totally cool if its 2 guys going at it or whatever, but when a girl is involved i just cant get into it in the slightest.
i feel like a bad person for this. i feel selfish- my bf says the attention cant all be on me and sex is about pleasing everyone involved and i know this very well! thats what i want to do, i live to please, but i dont know. i feel guilty and gross and its just been completely turning me off of sex recently. i feel disgusted with myself and my body, but sex is an important connection to him and he misses me and i do to but i just cant bring myself to feel sexy or want to do anything related to the matter. i feel sick.
am i a bad person?
If you are going to go through with the 3 sum why be prudish? Just because you aren't into it doesn't mean he isnt. Its a tough situation when you want something so bad but your partner denies it because it isnt her thing. Why even go through with the 3sum? Is it onky for your pleasure or is it fir the pleasure of all involved. If anal is off thr table but he wants anal amd is denied because of your opposition, is that really fair. I am really into anal, the way an object or dick rubs your prostate is amazing! Once you experience it it's all you really want. Just food for thought. If you do go through with the 3sum make it about all, not just you!