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Wife in late 40s, no sex drive any more
I wonder if my wife will ever get her sex drive back. We are in our mid 40s, a few children, busy life and all that. I could have sex with her everyday but she is hardly ever up for it. Sometimes I jerk in front of her or she gives me a hand job just to relieve my tension.
I really want her to enjoy sex again and wish she would initiate herself. Maybe she needs to get out and get fucked by someone else? I'd be open to anything, as long as she gets off and enjoys herself. Quite hot maybe seeing another cock in her pussy...or doing a wife swap. We never talked swapping couples but we've had fantasies while we fucked about another woman joining us, both enjoying that pussy in our minds... That's a while back, but sometimes I bring it up when we do have sex and whisper in her ear how I'd like to fuck another pussy with her... Depending on her mood, either she gets super wet or asks me to stop with that shit :)
Anyway, not sure where I am going with this, I just want her to have an orgasm and let go... I am just too horny all the time, so I could fuck anytime and woulnd't mind hot pussy with my wife
Maybe the problem is that you are concentrating on your own pleasure and ignoring hers. I've been married a long time and can tell you from my personal experience that the more you concentrate on making sure that she receives a lot of sexual pleasure from you, the more she will want to have sex with you. The short answer is that, if you want to get off as often as possible, make sure that SHE gets off as often as possible. God gave you a tongue. Learn how to use it well.
Valid point and fully agree. The problem is she doesn't want to be pleased, only once in a while can I get her in the mood. I am more interested in getting her pleased than myself. It's much more of a turn on for me to see her getting aroused.
There are good times ahead. It was the same for my wife and I. It was just such a busy life and the pressure she felt to be a good mother. Then when the kids all grew and moved out, she got her "sexy back". We had sex much more often and she became more open. By the time we were in our late 50s we had had a MFM3sum . We both loved it and did it more often. In our 60s we have had 4sums and an orgy with 4 couples and she has had sex with 3 other women. ( plenty of couples get open as they get older.) Now in our early 70s she has a bi-girlfriend and I have sucked a cock while she watched. It's never too late to expand sexually.
That sounds promising. I wouldn’t mind if that kicks in in our case and I sure wouldn’t mind an orgy with my wife and seeing her getting crazy with me and other couples. I’d like to see how she sucks cock and gets all horny for more.
I'm upper 60s, male, My wife was less and less interested starting in her late 40s. I made a friend and we had sex a few times/year for about 10 years. My wife had less end less interest at time went on. So I find girls to fuck whenever I can.
You’re not alone my guy. My wife is 45, I’m 46 and we’re in the same boat. Just a sexual desert with an occasional oasis. I won’t cheat on her but damn, it’d be nice to connect with her again.
Right? Would be great to have that old fire again. We used to have sex a lot and anywhere. When we started dating we fucked in the car, under the staircase of the highrise her father lived in, fucked while sharing a room with my female cousin (trip in Europe) etc! We showered together and had sex multiple times a day. Anyway, sex isn't everything but I'd love to see her enjoying sexual pleasure again.
Yep. We’re basically the same couple. Lol. We’ve been married almost 25 years. Up until like 4 years ago we had a pretty healthy sex life. Not like swinging of threesomes. But just a lot of great sex with a lot of fun stories. She’s been dealing with a lot of depression/anxiety that I’m certain is related to her starting her change. Patient and supportive is all I can be, but fucking A, I miss that connection that we had.
You’re a good husband. I have fantasies about fucking other women and jerking off to it.
I actually have more fantasies about my wife fucking other guys than I do about me fucking other women. Lol
Have asked her to fuck someone else yet?
I told her a long time ago that I want to share her. She hasn’t done it yet. She admits that her biggest hangup is that she is insecure and doesn’t feel sexy or desirable, in part due to her “change” happening. But if she ever says she wants to fuck another guy she knows she has the green light. It just has to be because she genuinely wants to and not just because I want her to.
Yep, why not let enjoy nice cock. Whatever makes her cum, I am all for it.
My wife lost her sex drive in her forties as she was going thru an early change. One night I took her out to dinner and she had a couple to many to drink. As we left the restaurant I quickly lifted her top and kissed her tits. Thinking she was going to get mad, but my horny ness got the better of me. Instead she loved it and has become the biggest exhibitionist that I have ever know.. I now love showing her off in public all the time and we even have sex in public if the place seems to be safe for a quickie. We both enjoy being watch and she will sometimes invite the person or people watching us too join in the fun. Don't give up on your wife
My wife is 55, it only gets worse. Find a side piece