Is wife swapping so great

I used to have a roommate that would let me fuck his gf. We would go to my bedroom and have sex then she would go back into the living room with him like nothing happened.

Agree with everything you have written. I can't understand swinging/ hotwife/cuckold lifestyle either.
Maybe for some couples it is just satisfying their physical/sexual needs. Husband not sexually satisfied with partner after having kids. Wife with low libido but husband want to have sex but does not want to emotionally cheat or be in an extra marital affair. Wife might be okay to play along and they may swing.
But most of the cases are due to the urge to explore what is forbidden. As a men I often wonder how other bodies of other women around me looks and feels. I often fantasize about having sex with them but I don't want to hide anything from my wife. I guess people who swing just fulfill their fantasies with their spouse.

The wife and I swap partners now and then. It adds a little spice to our marriage. On a scale of 1 to 10 I would give it a 7 on sexy things to do. My real turn on is when the wife fucks solo with another man. It makes me hard as a rock. I love Cuming in that wet pussy of hers. Now that is a 10 for sure. I guess it's a fetish of ours. We have doing it for eleven years and it still rates the highest of anything we have tried.

Very cool. Guess I shouldn’t knock it til I try it. Don’t think I can though.

My wife and I have watched porn while we have sex. Mostly we don't watch porn. We normally explore different ways to have sex on our own. We have had sex in large public fields with a lot of trees and high plants so we were somewhat hidden. we enjoyed our backyard after sunset; a couple of times a week in the summer, We had various sex in our 36' boat on land or in the water.

Sometimes we would fondle each other in restaurants where we could hide our playing. She enjoyed wearing mico skirts with or without panties. I enjoyed my cock would have a large bulge in my pants when we cash out, and both of us get aroused if we see the females and/or males staring as they notice my bulge and my wife's short skirt exposing her sheer panties. When we get to our car, we would fondle each other and goes somewhere to have sex. She would have her legs spread with or without panties having her legs on the dash. we both smile and laugh seeing the poor boy cleaning the windows and trying not to look up at her skirt. The teasing is the most we've ever done and that has been over 47 years together this year.

Watching your wife enjoy herself with a different men is not for everyone and can destroy a marriage. But on the other hand it can strengthen a marriage also. Ever since the first time my wife had sex with someone else besides me I wanted her more than ever before. Watching her enjoying herself and seeing another man pleasing her and she having orgams with him was the most exotic thing that I had ever seen. I could hardly wait to be with her afterwards and show her how much I loved her. This started a year after we were married and now 42 years later we still love each other more than anything else. Over the years she's been with a lot of men and she loved being able to have sex with other men and it's never bothered me about what she has done.

I totally agree with you. I think that men and women who swing are too immature for a committed relationship and just want a variety of pussy and cock. I don't think you can say that the wife is doing it to accomodate the husband in every instance. I'm sure in some relationships it is the wife pushing the husband into it, but in both instances the spouse that goes along does it for fear of "losing" their spouse (tho I'm sure there are some instances where both spouses want the freedom to fuck others). To me, the spouse is already lost. The intimate relationship that was supposed to be just between the 2 of them is now shared with any strangers that they feel attracted to, and it diminishes that intimate relationship between the 2 of them. Most swingers end up getting divorced, so swinging just delays the inevitable.

I think you'd be surprised how often it happens. My wife had sex with a guy who was staying with us for almost 2 years.
I'm not the jealous kind and confident in our relationship. I work shift work and she mostly slept with him on my night shift cycle.
She surprised me by doing it the first time after they been out to a work party will I worked nights. I'd teased her that since she was going on what was effectively a date with someone new she better wear some sexy underwear. She messaged me saying he was flirting with her and I said enjoy and at least I won't wake her if she's in his bed downstairs when I get home at 5 am.
She had never had sex with anyone other than me.
Was very liberating for her and had a lasting effect on our sex life.
Once we all settled into our unique relationship it was great seeing her blossom, even other people noticed her change.
Eventually it ended with him moving away for a better job . We are still friends with him and his wife he married a few years later. His wife is the only other person who knows what happened. I was best man for their wedding

This was 10 years ago and we have a great sex life and relationship and it was nothing more than the right time , place and person .
I know a couple of others who've had 3somes or sex outside their relationship without detrimental effects on their lives together.

I agree with you. I think a couple of other points might be related to your post.
1) what they are sharing by having any stranger fuck them is the rush and lust. In the case of committed couple this could be describe that as intimacy and passion.
2) going under the premise that those who swing and share like it, it also seems demeaning to them both. I’m a bit of freak myself in a committed relationship with another freak so I watch porn and read articles and what I find amusing is the times I’ve read “I was being fucked by so many cocks and covered in load after load of cum”. I am certain women that write this did enjoy it but all they were in my opinion is a receptacle for a bunch of dicks and a tissue for the many loads deposited on her. When I’ve watched the videos with my committed partner it is the dirty side of erotic. Yes it is arousing but it is also to me very demeaning too.

I agree with your first part 100%. Communication and being open leads to greater intimacy.

As for why people do it, I don’t think you can call out men or women as the driving force or the other as going along to just satisfy.

I mean look at the whole cuckold / Hotwire life style. I was reading blog today written the husband of a hot wife or cuckold I cannot keep what a cuckold is straight). He was saying how his wife’s bull / bf was sharing her with a guy he hates. The wife knew it but still let her bill / bf share her with the the guy her husband hates. And the final sentence of the blog was something along the lines of “my wife’s bill / bf shared my wife with this guy who I hate and my wife knows and she still got fucked roughly by the guy. I hate!”

Seriously! There is so much wrong with that last sentence I cannot even begin to break it down.

I do not necessarily conform to yesterday’s or today’s standards of what a marriage was, or is, or should be, but I do understand it’s intended purpose. The relationships of today I have tried to understand them but I am completely fucking confused.

The last sentence you quote. The husband says my wife 3 times. I don’t think he understands what marriage is and I don’t think his wife is still he wife. I agree with the OP. That sentence is fucked up!

The statement from the blog is priceless. “my wife’s bull / bf shared my wife with this guy who I hate and my wife knows and she still got fucked roughly by the guy I hate!”

In a world were you have the freedom to choose your own pronouns, this two morons have apparently chosen a life style where they can’t make the decision for themselves who can fuck them.

I know moron is a judgmental word but come on, if you don’t agree you are the husband and wife from the blog. They are a couple of real fucking morons.