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Blackmail
This started as a response to someone else's post. Blackmail came up and I just "vomited" what's below in one long paragraph. Turns out, its too long for a response. So, copy/paste, its now a post.
I cried when my wife told me she knew the whole time. My "friend" had been blackmailing me for almost my entire marriage. We experimented in college. Apparently, he liked it more than me. It's not that I don't like it, its that I couldn't see myself with a man for life. He and my wife have been friends for about as long as he and I. Two different friend circles. Anyway, drunk pics exist. He told me I'd need to tend to his needs ... Dumb ass me, caved in... I was mad he was taking advantage of me but eventually started enjoying it again. This time I was exclusively the bottom. Turns out my wife, then girlfriend, already knew I'd had sex with him a few times before we started dating. She said she just assumed he and I continued having sex even after we got married. She said she didn't mind because she never felt threatened by our friendship. She never wanted to participate and never discussed it with me because she figured I was embarrassed and would open up about it if I wanted to eventually. She said she also knew I was the bottom because she and our friend talk about it. I'm mad because he totally took advantage of me. I'm freaked out that my wife knew for 17 years this was happening. She says she didn't know I was blackmailed to get the sex started up again and that he used that to make me exclusively the bottom. She said she just assumed I naturally gravitated to that role. (that Still hurts my ego). She told me I need to make up with my "boyfriend". That didn't go over well. But she keeps telling me to makeup with him... That we've been friends since college, that I got over being upset about the " blackmailing " part years ago and that I was more or less a willing partner for years (I admitted that I did enjoy the sex). I'm mostly embarrassed that for years she thought I was the bottom voluntarily. I know in my heart that I will forgive him because our lives are so intertwined... we share a boat and a fish camp and other than this fucked up sex thing are best friends. We've been best friends since college. We were roommates for awhile. Thing is we didn't have sex when we were roommates. in my mind, I know that if we do makeup, I'll go right back to the submissive bottom. I'm scared of that being in the open in my marriage but I guess it already has been I just didn't realize it. This has been therapeutic. I'm still going to post this because its so fucked up. Sorry for the stream of consciousness.
My current fwb thinks he's blackmailing me. I let him think it because it turns him on.
I have heterosexual blackmail fantasies, so i somewhat understand the confusion and excitement of this circumstance.
I have those too. Usually it’s some guy that knows I’ve cheated on a wife. I don’t know him but he shows me proof of my extramarital affair’s. He tells me he’s going to tell her if I don’t do as he demands. It starts out with him making me suck his dick and eventually him fucking me. The weird twist is that my wife is in on it because she knows I’ve cheated and wants me to get used. It’s a friend of hers from the gym that saw her crying one day and she tells him the whole story. They come up with this plan. This goes on for months until one day she is supposed to be out of town and Craig comes over to use me. While Craig is using me my wife comes in and watches silently until Craig makes me admit I cheat and I love his cock. Then my wife speaks up.
I was drunk when I typed that. I'm sorry.