Don't want him to be upset

I want to tell my husband that I don't want him to share me anymore. At first it was like a once in awhile thing . It has now become way to common of a thing. It's been over three months since he and I have been intimate alone. I tried talking to him about it and thought it was going to at least slow down. He called me from work and said to get dressed nice, he said he was going to take me out for a surprise. We went to a beautiful winery where we were given many different types of wine as samplers. Then my husband took me by the hand through the back room , there was a bed there and the man that was serving us and two other waiters. He only is happy when he's watching men have their way with me. I have never felt so humiliated in my life. He literally just got up after he masturbated and left me to fend for myself with the group of men.

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  • Get the respect back and dump him

  • Stuck now Darling, best thing is to try and ensure they wear condoms and enjoy it but be realistic you will get all types of jack just ensure he roots you now and again so he does not get off scot free OK ?

  • I don't even know what that means

  • It didn't go well with my conversation with him last night. I give up

  • I don't know your history but I am guessing there was some initial conversation about swinging where he said it would turn him on to watch and you eventually said you would do it. There must have been some kind of discussion about it then, am I right?
    Perhaps you could reference back to that conversation. Tell him that although you got a thrill out of the attention, and out of knowing that it turned him on to do this, that you are feeling differently about it now.
    At the very least, any encounter you have with others should be something you are aware of beforehand and have agreed to engaging in.

    Were you both swingers when you married each other? Well, it doesn't matter either way. Your needs have changed and he should want to be considerate of those needs.
    Express your desire to satisfy him however you can, but tell him you don't feel good about this anymore. Talk to him about what it is about sharing you that turns him on. See if there are other arrangements which can satifsy him which don't entail you swinging with strangers.
    Tell him you love him and hope he still loves you. Stay positive, avoid being defensive, and stress that you want to make it work for both of you.

    Best of luck on this.

  • I will go in the living room right now and try to talk to him about everything. Thank you for the support.

  • Some women would envy you.
    You will need to tell him outright
    Be prepared for rejection tho

  • He changes the subject Everytime I bring it up

  • Sweetheart, do you like the sex you are getting from the guys and if you don't think I am rude do you accept them orally, anally, vaginal and hand or do you have limit's

  • I do enjoy it and enjoy the attention . I have done it all . I guess there really isn't much in the way of limits.

  • That's nice sweetheart, I really hope you keep enjoying your sex and don't get the jack you sound like a very nice lady but your hubby is a bit stuffed up I think.

  • Do what hubby says or he might kick you out of the house, change the locks, cut up the credit cards, take your name off the checking account and kill your cell phone. Then what? You better plan this out.

  • I have thought about all this I am stuck

  • You probably are all up infected with various STDs now. With that much cum it’s bound to happen

  • Well I sincerely hope not , most of them wear condoms btw

  • Darling there only has to be one without the condom for you to get diseased.
    I bet your old man or should I say pimp no longer shag's you because he does not want the jack
    Incidentally sweetie are you enjoying the sex you are getting ?

  • It is true that he would rather watch then participate

  • Tell him, no, I'm done being used. Bad situation to put you in against your will. He's basically letting you get raped by whoever he chooses. I was at my non-usual sports bar a few months ago, and a guy and his hot gf sat next to me. We started chatting and watching a game on tv, and, in the men's room, he hit me up with "Want a shot at her? Give me $75 and I'll have her outside in ten minutes". I asked if he was a pimp and she a hooker, and he said no. "Nah, just my girlfriend. I like doing this to her when we go out".

    I declined, and we went back to the bar. She had to know what he was up to, since every time I looked at her, she gave me a look that spoke of "I know he just offered me to you". Was a bit uncomfortable after that. I finished up and left, thinking..What the hell was that?

  • Hey the person who suggested Donkey's is a smart cookie, I am certain you would be able to get plenty of paying customers start off by having some fuck you (they could pay a premium and get front row seating) to loosen you up then bring on the Donkey, your husband would clearly be wanking hard by then it would be so sexy watching such a performance.
    Do you think your up to it Honey ?

  • I think that's mean

  • Darling I would really start wondering where he is stashing or wasting all the funds you are turning over for him.
    You better start getting your share don't take any of this "I am not charging them " crap, he certainly is or he is a ratbag either way he is showing no concern or respect for you

  • There is obviously no hope for you sweetheart you must be a one in a million real dill, keep doing everything your stupid husband wants till he gets sick of you and pisses you off
    I really like the bit about "ha says he is not charging" how quaint

  • I need/want help he had me be with four men last night.

  • The way your pussy is getting hammered it must be expanding so soon he will have to bring Donkeys or you won't feel it at all

  • You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, husband or not. Just give him one chance with an ultimatum that you will do it no more then be prepared to kick him out and file for divorce if he refuses to accept.

  • So then I would be devorsed from the man I love , I don't want that

  • WHAT?? Let him get angry with you if he wants, YOU get to decide what you do with your body. Tell him he meets your "terms" (say, he only shares you once a month, or every six months, or a year, or only on vacation, or whatever) if you wish to still do it sometimes, or never again and not at all. You are not being treated with any respect. PLUS, him walking away and leaving you alone with a group of strange men shows no concern for your safety.

  • Turn those tables honey!!!Find yourself a couple of large gay guys and tell your husband you've arranged a hotel with some interested men, then when you get there let them stick it to him for a change.

  • Oh you mean have the big gay guys do him in the ass lol

  • You don't want him to get mad? BS! He's a blowhard running a bluff. Your the one with the power of the puss.

  • What do you mean

  • If you want to keep this up start demanding half the money you earn, save as much as you can because sooner or later this situation is going to turn to shit, don't worry about him getting upset your the one doing all the work, I really hope you don't get the jack Baby you sound like a nice lady and clearly deserve better than this pimp

  • You think he's charging them omfg

  • O you really don't think your doing it for the fun of it do you Baby, your a prostitute OK

  • Well I am going to ask him if he has charged anyone

  • He charged 10 dollars just to make you a cheap whore

  • He said he hasn't been charging anyone

  • You have to just divorce him. My ex-husband once pressured me into swinging with his corporate friends, and I did it for a while, but it got old quickly. Don't let anyone treat you like a sex object.

  • Life I guess goes on , I was just texted from my husband to inform me to make sure I'm shaved and showered because he will be here in an hour with someone

  • I would go out and let him come home to an empty house.

  • Honey I'm curious, do you know how many men you have been with since this started

  • Not really sorry

  • Sharing works for some and goes very bad for even more.

  • That’s messed up. Tell him how you feel.

  • He gets upset

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